Grey grey everything everywhere grey! 😳🥴😵‍💫😫

My partner loves grey. Everything is grey. The walls the carpets the sofa, (the Frenchie when he had one) the cushions, the bedding, the rugs, the decoration, the art work, the table the plate and mugs, EVERYTHING! GREY, MIRRORED, GLITTERY, A FURY/FLUFFY!!. I absolutely hate it. It pecks my head. Our little girls room is all grey (bedding, cushions, decor, art),. He wants the new baby's room to be grey and pink (baby girl). The babies clothes are mostly gray 😐. I absolutely hate It. That being said, I'd happily move out but he won't want that. Iv already asked if our daughter can have her room how she wants it. Cosy and childlike but when I started on that he freaked out and I had to put it back the way it was. I absolutely fucking hate it. There's no warmth, no depth, no family vibes. Anyway I could complain and moan about it all day. I'm pretty set on finding my own place that doesn't look like a dull tacky chavy cold show house. We can't have the summer house because that's his gym. What can I do? It grinds in me every day. I feel like I'm constantly fighting some kind of depression. The flowers are fake and grey also. I had to get rid of mine as "real flowers look shit and make a mess and need dusting... Why the fuck would anyone want real flowers in their house..." And the garden.... The garden! He put down that fake grass shit. And chopped the tree's/bushes at the back of the garden so instead of looking out onto trees and birds we now see the neighbours brick house (nice house but the trees were nicer) 😭. There's just no life I'm happy to leave but he won't want that. What can I do. He won't change anything. I've looked at renting a caravan but that's just as expensive as a house. Ughhh. I hate it. What can I do. I know I sound ungrateful and whatever else but we can't do anything. No toys out of the bedroom. She has to tidy up sometimes when she's playing in her room because he says there are toys everywhere and the room is a mess. Her stuff, toys included is contained to one wardrobe as Is all of my stuff contained to one wardrobe, clothes, shoes, books coats, knickers... Everything. I'm at a loss. I don't want to moan and moan. I want a solution. I want my shitty flat back (flat was lovely but it was in a terrible area and the building looked and smelt like damp crack house but it was our comfortable home😔

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Have you told him how unhappy grey everything is making you? Maybe you could try and find some middle ground and get some more soft furnishings or artwork which are more colourful and put up some family photos or similar? It's your home too, you're both entitled to live in a place that makes you happy! X

Normally when men are clueless they let the lady take the lead

You need to make him see that babies and children need some colour around them. The kids rooms should be colourful he needs to get over his control issues

Ooooohhh I feel annoyed for you!!! 😵‍💫 i absolutely hate grey and prefer a wholesome warm cozy home. I agree with @Zoe Your a family and the decisions to make a house a home should involve both of you...personally, in my opinion, women are much better at making a house a home. I think men have no taste, but that's just my opinion lol you need some sort of escape where you can relax in your own space, perhaps float the idea of allowing you to have responsibility of one room for yourself.

@Zoe I've said it's dull and theres no life. All I ever get back is "it's nice, it's smart, it's modern" he says my stuff is tat. She had a IKEA toy kitchen I bought with us but because I'd painted it green (to match with our flat) it had to go. I've bought my daughter her own bedding because it's softer and a little more feminine. The fitted sheets are white but I bought a green/blue one and a set of pillow cases so she has a little bit of colour in her room the duvet is off white with a inoffensive flower print. She's just seen it and isn't very happy about it. Asking if I bought it because it's cheap (400 count from Next or M&S nothing fancy). He gets his bedding from the range (nothing wrong with that but It goes rough and bobbly after a few washes which I can't stand against my skin) the bed can be made so the colour doesn't show. I'll post a picture when my daughter gets to sleep.

@Emily he's stubborn and likes what he likes. I'm at a loss as to what I can do. I'm looking at getting a job and moving out. I want her to be able to jump on the bed if she wants and have her friends over. Every time I open a cupboard shit falls out because it's so full in there. I'm losing my mind. The constant dusting and polishing of his mirrored/glittered/silver/glass ornament and everything else is doing my nut in. We even keep our toothbrushes and bathroom stuff in our wardrobes because there's nowhere for it in there (all his beauty products) and then he gets sick of seeing our toothbrushes and toothpaste so stick them in the back somewhere like they are used twice daily. 😔

@Sydney right. I'd happily had beige or white everything but I added colours for my daughter's sake. It's good for you mentally which impacts you psychically. It's something that's quite often overlooked but it's quite important for us. Oh and he has lamps all over which we can't use because he hates them. 😳 It's very clearly his home. It's been months now and I've literally last night just got a wardrobe for my stuff. Is it crazy to rent a house so we can relax and feel at home?

I would move out. If you can’t do anything about the house it’s not urs

@Sofia I tried this with my daughter's room but he flipped and freaked out called my stuff shit and tat and I had to put it back. I kid you know. The photos in her room are of his eldest daughter. Her stuff is still here which is why my daughter's stuff is shoved in one wardrobe. What would you do in this situation?

@Sydney I'm looking. I cannot for the life of me right now think of another solution. If I'm out of line and need to give my head a wobble I absolutely will. But I wake up and I CBA with anything. I'm not really enjoying anything anymore. I actually miss my shitty flat. It was so warm and full of love. I don't care about stuff. It doesn't mean anything to me. Especially when they're so young. I just want a warm happy comfortable home for my family. I want them to have pets, to play outside with no shoes on and get all muddy. To have nice warm long bubble baths (we're not allowed baths because you sit in your own filth 🙄) after a fun packed day. Bake and help cook dinner without worrying about getting bits of whatever wherever. I used to clean at night when she was sleeping listening to a podcast. But he wants me to clean in the day because normal people clean in the day but that'd leave no time for homeschooling. I often dream about us having our own place so I think I may continue with that.

Is the partner the dad to the kids?

Sounds like ocd. Won't change. Get that move for the sake of your own child

Seems like he's overly controlling... I would leave then...let him stew in his grey misery by himself ... take your daughter and move somewhere else. Kids need to be kids and you and your daughter need to live somewhere that feels like home

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