Am I overreacting? Advice please

I can see why you’re upset. I’ve said I want to get a specific tee pee as she loves getting under stuff so going to set it up I’m her room with her books. I said to my SIL about it and she’s gone and ordered like a pop up princess tent and said she knew I said that I wanted to get her one and it was only right she got a princess one 😅 I was like how do I say this without being ungrateful… I’d say can it be delivered here before her birthday so you can still set it up as your vision x

I might ask them to return it and get something else as it's something you were excited to do for her. It's literally her first bike. Parents should be able to do all the firsts if they want to. Especially if you had already told them that's what you were doing. Maybe have some other present suggestions ready if they ask. But idk I could see my In-laws doing that and I'd probably just wimp out and pick something else and not ever tell them my plans in advance again.

@Kelsey wimping out is what I usually do I’m afraid 😢

I think you are overreacting a little bit :$

Get her the one you want! Maybe she can use that other bike at her grandparents? :) maybe they’ll get the hint. I think they were trying to be helpful though! I don’t think you are overreacting it’s her first birthday and it’s special!

It's a struggle. I either wimp out completely or go too far the other way and am seething mad 😅 It's a work in progress, but there's definitely some things I have to shut down with both sets of grandparents. Hopefully someone has better advice for you. All I can offer is commiseration lol

So annoying. Next time maybe don't tell people what you're getting her, or ask ppl to pitch in so you can get the item you envisioned?

It actually sounds really sweet that the grandparents got the big gift. Is it an option to include them in the morning so the present is from everyone. You can still set it up with a pretty pink bow and grandparents also get to enjoy with you

I think you're overreacting. I would just be thankful for the gift. I personally have a wishlist on Amazon of the specific things I want for my daughter and share that link with family that ask what she's needs or we want. But other family and friends buy surprises for us all the time. We just mention it and bam we've got it. I personally love it because now I don't have to buy it. Let's someone else buy it. You can still set up a great surprise for on the day no one is taking that from you.

Yeah that's not on. You literally told them you wanted to get it, they were out of line. I'd say to them "thanks, but this really is something that we wanted to choose and purchase for her, here's a list of other things she would like..."

The same thing happened to me. I was a bit upset at first, but in the end, my daughter didn’t even notice who gave it to her. For now, I’m just glad I didn’t have to spend any money. Lesson learned, I won’t share it with my ML again. When she’s older and I want to plan a special birthday, I’ll handle it differently.