Partner moaning 🙄

For reference: I'm off work now (mat). He chooses not to work. He goes out on a weekend. I don't get alone time. We have a toddler, she doesn't settle easy at night. I routinely settle said toddler to sleep. I've said I'm not settling her to sleep tonight (age 2) because I don't feel good. Feel very achy/sick. I literally do it almost every night. He just wants to sit and do nothing, and so now he's moaning cause I said no. I don't feel well and I'm tired. I'm going to bed. I'm not fighting a hyper toddler who's running around screaming clearly too energetic for bed when I'm shattered and feel awful. So now my partner is in a mood. Without fail, no matter how I feel, I do it 9/10 times. I don't even know the last time he did it. I even did it earlier yesterday due to feeling similar. Why should I not be able to get a break? I'm the one growing the baby and exhausted. She's a relatively easy going child, when she isn't hyper. Best thing is to put lion guard on and cuddle her and she'll go off but rather than do that, he's sitting there essentially ignoring her because I've told him no. Someone please tell me this will be easier when baby is here 😬 Why is it that Mums have to do it all? (She goes to preschool usually, so it's not like he even has to deal with her all day every day, he's just being lazy. Literally only has to pick her up and make dinner, I'm around for drop-offs and bed.)

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That doesn't seem right. As soon as I stopped breastfeeding our 2 year old my partner started putting him to bed every night, especially as it makes sense for when the baby is here, since I'll be with her. Can you remind your partner that when no. 2 arrives it makes sense if he does bed time? 😊 x

@Claudia I tried... his response was "I need a break." So like he gets all weekend and every evening, on top of the days our little girl is at preschool and I get nothing at all? 🙄 Not exactly fair. Must be on his man period or something.

Omg we have a similar partner. I'm technically on annual leave . My mat leave starts 2nd December but his had 5 days off with us and put our toddler to bed once. He had 16 hours of sleep one day after his shift and was still tired. Always me sorting our toddler whose nearly 3 and he does it if I say " you can" I went back to bed the other morning but that's because my MIL had our toddler over night so I snuck an hour before she came back as my growth scan was at 7.50am and partner waa busy doing something else. If she was here I wouldn't have got that hour or i would've but she would've been next to me on my phone scrolling through funny dog videos on tik tok whilst he sat on the sofa. Different story when he wants a nap.

First of all I'm sorry you have such a unsupportive partner. He should be right there by your side in helping with your daughter! Pregnancy is SO draining on your body. I disagree that that mums have to do it all, they should never have to do it all, it's dependent on what kind of partner you have, and yours isn't stepping up to be the partner you deserve! He should be putting your daughter to bed end of! You've said he chooses not work!? What is his excuse? So he's living a single life whilst being with you, out every weekend, not helping with his own child, not working. That's shocking, and you're doing absolutely everything. That really needs to change as it'll get harder when baby number 2 arrives. I would have told him to step up or step out, it's sounds like you're doing everything yourself already! Wishing you the best of luck ❤️

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