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I think it definitely takes time and takes a full work up. It takes communication, patience, and honesty.

Hormones aren’t the only cause of this. For me it was the constant state of overwhelm and a partner who had his own depression and therefore disappeared. After two weeks he voluntarily went back to work and when he wasn’t there he was golfing or at the gym. I felt like a single mother with no help at all and I was not prepared for that.

Most of the time this depression is caused by lack of support, no sleep, which adds to the hormone mess. Imagine living with 5 other people you love who take turns on waking up at night, wash bottles for you, bring you food, hold the baby when you needed to shower, look after it for 1 hour while you take a walk on your own. I want to see an example of post partum depression in that situation. I bet I won't find it.

@Lisa I was reading that men can also get the baby blues. Children can put a major strain on relationships. My story is a little different, I did it on my own from the beginning. The father of my children came home after being in prison during the birth of my first born. Back then I was young but had the support of my family. We tried to make it work but after three years we called it quits. He walked awayn for many years. Occasionally calling to see how we were doing. My second pregnancy was extremely difficult, after attempting to rekindle our romance 13 years later he got me pregnant. We are not together we just are not a match. During my pregnancy I was the most alone I've ever been. I isolated myself and was estranged from my family and the dad. It was the hardest thing and I was extremely emotional, but I would cry for my baby. Now that my baby is here I'm not alone anymore. I love him so much. He's my angel. Things are much better now and me and Dad are co-parenting.

It’s treatable in most cases. But since the healthcare system is failing, especially in the maternity field and postpartum care is pretty much nonexistent then women suffer from it more and for much longer. The way hospital births handle birth cause more complications then avoid them, which leads to lots of birth trauma, pitocin is overused and it’s linked to PPD, postpartum care is nonexistent (that 1 appointment at 6weeks is not care) and women are not educated on what postpartum healing actually looks like and how to really take care of yourself PP. knowing it last 2 years doesn’t really tell you anything. PPD can also be caused by lack of support, stressful environment and due to history of mood disorders. It’s really sad the lack of postpartum care there is. Knowing what I know as a doula, the lack of postpartum care and education is truly disgusting

@✨Wis 🇭🇹 You hit the nail on the head (not coffin lol) with this one Wis. When I was at the hospital ready to deliver I was shocked that my only options for pain management were IV or epidural. I knew about the epidural but I wanted something less invasive, and I didn't want to do the fentanyl drip. Correlating this experience with women's health. As progressive as we think we are in women's health we've got so much more to go. You are right about postpartum care. I saw a couple videos online about postpartum care in S Korea. They have postpartum care centers where midwives take care of you for a couple weeks to help you recuperate. Not to complain about the US but we are not advanced. And our cultures sometimes sucks. Postpartum care here is nearly non-existent. I believe it's in part with the whole pick yourself up by your bootstraps mentality. Insurance is too there's a lot of stuff they don't cover. Our whole health care system... Shit.

@Violeta💕 yes the entire system isn’t built right for mothers. We have a LONG way to go. Moms don’t even realize or know the amount of options they have, even in cases of emergency or medical necessity that can help prevent birth trauma and PPD. So many thing “it needed to be done this way”. Insurance companies are partially to blame because they have a HUGE influence on how hospitals care for births and they don’t pay much money postpartum which is why most OBGYN will only see you once at 6weeks and even for that appointment they don’t get paid the way they would a regular appointment. Midwifery care should be the standard with the postpartum visits and pelvic floor therapy should actually be part of postpartum recovery. As doulas we are fighting to help change policies and how moms are cared for but it’s a long, massive fight!

@✨Wis 🇭🇹 These insurance companies are making so much money. This for sure would have to change on a policy level. But... You go girl. Thanks for the work you do!

For me post partum was only "curable" with therapy, getting more help with the kids, and time. Medications fucked me up even more. The thing that seemed to make my post partum the worst was having nobody to rely on, being completely overwhelmed, sleep deprived, and not being able to TALK to anyone about what I was going through. It made me feel completely detached from reality and myself. I think if I had someone I could have talked to without judgment it wouldn't have been as bad.

I think it can be helped, but some are more prone to it for sure or find themselves in bad circumstances and trigger it

I think it depends on the person and the circumstances they find themselves in . If you have a village and are able to go to drs appointments . Therapy , have medication it probably is curable . If not . I highly doubt it . I am 2 months post partum with my 3rd child . I feel like out of all my pregnancies this time it’s coming around a bit harder for me . Emotionally . I cry a lot more then I used to and I think it’s ok and it doesn’t bother me but I am just only 2 months post partum. It will likely change as my baby gets older in different ways and I’m just trying to be understanding to myself and tell myself that I just gave birth . That I need to give myself time and patience.

It takes a village to help you get better and always check on you. Also taking Ashwaganda helps so so much