MIL rant

Myself and my partner went to a family members birthday party at the weekend, i was stood socialising with my LO in my arms and the MIL came over and without asking, put chocolate cake in my daughters mouth. I was really shocked and didn’t know what to say without being rude, so I said oh I don’t really want her having chocolate cake I want her to be a healthy eater. She then continued to do this another 2 times saying ooh it’s a special occasion a little bit won’t hurt 😡 Then on Sunday we bumped into her whilst shopping, and when she was leaving she gave my daughter a kiss goodbye on the lips! Iv never even kissed my baby on the lips. So to see her do it has made me so angry and upset. Iv expressed all of this to my partner but he is so blasé about things and won’t say anything to upset his mum. I just feel like it’s going to come between the relationship as I can’t see to let these emotions go.

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No advice but I'd be super annoyed too if make it clear next time to ask before feeding anything, is say we are still weaning, testing allergens and trying to set good habits so don't want to offer sweet tests for a long while yet

Red flag from your partner not wanting to upset his mum. If he didn’t want to speak to her, then personally I would. And unless she agrees to do what you ask her not too, cut contact. Chocolate, albeit small, contains caffeine. Not to mention all the added sugars. As for kissing her on the lips, I would’ve thrown hands! That’s damn right disrespectful. We’re coming into winter and RSV season. IMO that woman don’t care about your daughters health

I'd be fuming at both of those things. So sorry this happened! I'd try and speak to your partner again and say how important it is and you don't want to upset his mum either, but the safety of your little one is more important than her feelings and if he won't speak to her then I think you should explain to her why you don't want her giving your baby certain foods or kissing. If she doesn't listen and respect your wishes I'd say she can't see the baby.

Outrageous behaviour. Next time you see her. Shove some cake in her mouth and see how she likes it 😂

Sorry that’s not acceptable to me. That’s too rude of her. She should asked you first!

I honestly cannot believe some of the advice women give each other here. Remember that this chocolate cake and kissing is a reflection of love your MIL has towards her grandkid. You may not like it and I wouldn’t either but your partner probably doesn’t mind it and he will never tell his mom off for that, so you either speak to her yourself or you just let it go…Is it really worth getting so upset about? Life is short…

@Eva it doesn’t matter if it’s a sign of her loving my daughter. The point is she has kissed her on the mouth before I have kissed her as she’s still a baby and it’s still extremely dangerous! And imagine she had an allergic reaction to the chocolate cake. So in my opinion yes it is worth getting upset over.

You also asked her not to give her more cake and she continued to ignore you. That’s not cool. And exactly in regards to allergies.

I kissed my baby on the mouth since he was born and many relatives kissed him on the cheeks, he was fine after that. I don’t let kids kiss him as they are more infectious than adults. I know everyone is crazy about allergies but remember that this is a problem for a small percentage of people. It sounds like nothing bad happened to your baby due to the cake or the kiss but if you want to get worked up about it and put a strain on your family it’s your call…

That’s your baby. That’s your decision. This is my baby so it’s therefore my decision to not let every Tom dick and Harry kiss my baby. You’re the only person to not agree with my frustration.

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