Tough spot

So I haven’t gotten my period back yet since giving birth in Oct 2023. I test weekly just to make sure I’m not pregnant. Doc says it’s because of breastfeeding. So I really want another baby. I want my daughter to have a sibling to grow up with. Husband has a daughter from a previous marriage but she is grown and living with her husband and 2 babies in another state. He is not wanting another one. Like at all. But years ago we always talked about it we did ever have kids it wouldn’t just be one. I grew up an only child and so did he until he was a teenager so I’m just like 😩😩😩😩 I love being a mommy and I legit cant see myself not having another one but my husband is just like “nope” 😬

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Oof. Stay silent, stay off birth control and pray? I assume you're having regular sex.

Not sure what your period has to do with your issue with your husband not wanting another child. I’m sure your doctor told you that you don’t need to have a period to ovulate — so it’s very possible for you to get pregnant while still breastfeeding if that’s your concern. Regarding your issue with your husband, I would consider bringing up your past agreement and asking him what changed his mind. Better to have an open conversation about it than to jump straight to trying to trick him into thinking you got pregnant accidentally. While your intentions are pure, it could end up blowing up in your face if he somehow found out you had been skipping birth control or whatever other safety measure(s) you’re using without his consent.

He could be hesitant now because your baby is still young and he's still acclimating to the life change. Can you revisit the conversation in 6 months?

@Elyssa I’m not tricking him into anything. I have explained to him how it works and all that. I don’t take birth control. We are having sec and there are times he doesn’t pull out. So in my head he knows the risks associated.

I didn’t mean to imply that you were. The first person suggested “stay off birth control and pray” which to me sounded a bit like concealing the fact that you were or were not on birth control. I agree that if he’s not pulling out, then that’s on him 🤷🏻‍♀️ he surely does know the risks as you’ve told him and that’s that. Best of luck. Hope you get the outcome you want & that he comes around.

@Elyssa it's not concealing, obviously he knows she's not on birth control

Again… wasn’t accusing anyone… it wasn’t clear from the original post if she was using any form of contraception. Your comment, based on not knowing if she was, came off as possibly not continuing birth control/starting it and not telling him based on the “stay silent” part. I don’t know what your intentions or hers were, I was simply cautioning against going that route IF it was being suggested/considered. Not trying to argue with anyone. I will not be defending my position further. She asked for an opinion and I provided one.

And if she wasn’t looking for an opinion, then she could’ve avoided posting and saying “tough spot” because I was just trying to help…

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