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So me and my fiance decided to open up and have a person or two join us in the bedroom and we’re on a couple dating apps. (we have extensive rules for this) Weeeeelllll tonight I checked on our apps just looking thru the request, because what some men have the audacity to say knowing I have a man is crazy. Then I noticed someone I knew and he doesn’t seem to recognize me since I’ve lost nearly 200lbs since I last saw him. However seeing him just reminded me that I crave the hardcore dom he was not him, but my man just isn’t that he’s great in bed no complaints there it’s amazing! I just crave the roughness he provided we never were flirtatious with each other I had a want that he filled its all but I don’t know how to tell my fiancé about this guy without him getting in his feelings. I by no means want to leave my man for him or be with the guy but I also know if this guy joins us it will definitely scare my man since he’s just not that rough in fear of hurting me no matter how many times I say I’m a masochist and enjoy it he doesn’t get it and just can’t get it. I get his side trust me it’s not for everyone but is it wrong I want my one last fling with the other guy to try and get it out of my system?

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Don’t start what you can’t finish! One last time will be the first of many

Yea it is wrong. You know it is. I see it as you’re taking advantage of the situation and your fiancé to cheat just because you “crave the roughness he provided” & then saying “one last fling with the other guy to try and get it out of my system”. Would you even tell your partner how you feel or that you know this guy? If roles were reversed how would you feel?

Since you are both open to it, then you need to be honest and let your fiancé know about it. If he says no, then that’s just it. You have to respect his decision since you both are in it together. If you do this by keeping some truths hidden to yourself then you are setting up your marriage to fail before it has even started. Honesty is tough but that’s why it’s so important that you be as transparent as possible. There is no way you can justify cheating, doesn’t matter if it’s only physical, the act counts and once it’s done you can never go back. There is no such thing as “getting it out of my system”. It’s like saying “I’m going to go vegan tomorrow so let me have my last meat today” - if you could you would’ve just do it no questions asked and no excuses.

Will it really be the one last fling? 👀 Both are accepting an open relationship but the fact that you know him and that he offers what your partner can't give, are likely going to hurt his ego. He is not only a random guy. Imagine turning things around... You partner bringing in a girl who really turns him on the way HE REALLY REALLY likes it, BTW she is an ex. 💣

@Nattinan I took your advice I told him the truth and left the ball in his court I knew that was the right decision but in the heat of the moment I just couldn’t think clearly

If there’s a disagreement the. You have to wait until both of you have calmed down. Try and have a nice talk talk in a rational manner after. It is up to the both of you of what you actually want from one another. When you’re in an open relationship you are open to letting others intervene with your feelings towards one another. If one of you isn’t ok about it then that’s something to probably be discussed as you don’t want to regret any decision later on. You need to talk to each other if you are truly what each of you want for the rest of your life.

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