First time mum help.

Hi guys, currently feeling really low. My little girl is 2 in Feb. Her behaviour at the moment is really challenging. I feel like my sweet little girl has gone😞. Granted she is poorly at the moment and has a virus. But I feel like everything is hard work. I feel so drained. Putting her coat on is a huge task in which she cries and resists, making me feel like the worst person. Teeth brushing is horrendous every single day resulting in a screaming fit where I have to pin her down or she simply wouldn’t have her teeth brushed, The last couple of days she has started arching her back getting into the car and literally screaming the car down becoming so so distressed. It just breaks my heart. I feel she is very unhappy and nothing I do is right. We have been home the last 3 days because she has been poorly and all she wants to do is watch the television and have her dummy in all day which has only ever been for nap times. I just feel like everything is out in control. Please can somebody give me some advice or point me in the right direction or where to get some help to see what I am doing wrong 😭😭 I find it hard to entertain her at home has anybody got any tips? I dislike her watching tv all day it makes me feel really depressed but going out is a huge chore at the moment

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i don’t have any advice unfortunately but maybe some reassurance…. i’m feeling and experiencing the exact same! my little boy is 2 in january. everything you said about brushing teeth, the dummy, mini meltdowns.. we are having it all. maybe it’s just a phase they are going through? sounds like you’re doing a great job try not to be too harsh on yourself!

My lo responds well to choices, “do you want to walk to the car or have a carry” kind of thing, always two options that suit me but she feels like she gets to choose - doesn’t always work but helps!

I have been experiencing the same over the past few weeks. Putting coat on, changing nappy, getting in the pram, taking a bath, everything is a struggle! I find that giving choices (two different coats, two pijamas, etc) helps but in terms of the other stuff where you can’t give options are more difficult and takes a looooong time to navigate then through lots of explaining and compromising (like getting in the pram - I am 9 months pregnancy so can’t carry her long periods and sometimes she doesn’t want to walk anymore)

We sometimes experience the same with getting in the car too and what helps is to distract her with a toy or give her a snack so I can put her in. Other times I just wait until the meltdown is over to then try again. Whilst we are on the car journey, if she gets upset and starts screaming down I put some nursery rhymes or fun music on and it usually helps. Or give her a snack

I can relate, my lg is the exact same, I'm hoping it's just a phase, I have no advice as trying to figure it out myself but just know you are not alone, i think the majority of us with toddlers this age are in the same boat. x

We are having same with car seat it's awful! It's because he has sat in front seat with us to play once when we were parked and now that's where he wants to be! We still go out and I just mentally prepare myself for drama and offer a snack as bribery. Or take him out, cuddle and put back in. Once out of car its fine. At home I've been involving him in a lot more eg cleaning window or "washing up" on his stool whilst I cook. I also find it helpful to set a limit on TV time and then go and do something else. It's a really hard stage I'm finding as so much depends on their mood/tantrum level x

Thank you everybody you have made me feel a lot better. Seeing her so grumpy just makes me feel like I am doing something wrong and failing so it’s nice to know other people are finding the same. Toddler calm is a great book I have been reading atm is anybody wants to try by Sarah ockwell smith. It explains toddler behaviour as for me this is a first time.

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