Am I expecting too much?
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@Lyss thank you for your input, and that’s a great idea. I think for him, he’s winding down after a long day and I am also winding down after looking after bub. It’s so easy to resort to electronic devices but maybe now I’m being too selfish to ask for him to concentrate on me when he wants to relax lol
Not selfish at all. Of course we all need wind down time AND connection should also be priority. Family dynamics change with a baby so this isn’t unheard of but I’d recommend you guys find a therapist at least biweekly to find ways of improving connection otherwise this can build into resentment on both ends
Not expecting to much that’s minimum standards Have a conversation with each other maybe on a weekend On how you both can support each others connection and needs throughout the week You both deserve to be filled with love and rest and rejuvenate how you need it Otherwise that can turn to resentment from either side
It sounds like you are doing everything you can. He needs to step up cuz you aren’t asking too much. You want to spend time with him. And like you may be quiet in nature doesn’t mean he should retreat to his phone. Maybe what you could do is get those conversations starter cards and keep it on the table and use them at dinner time to get more conversation flowing.