My neighbour requested that I become a nanny for her baby

I am a stay at home mom of 3 kids. My last born is 1 year old. And I plan she would go to crèche at 2. My neighbour who works is 4 months pregnant and has asked some months back if I could babysit for her. I made it clear that I've been home the past 7 years tendering for my kids. I would want to go back to work or find something to do. Today again, she sent a message, saying that it would be great if I took up being a baby sitter as my next adventure. Knowing I have explained things to her prior to now, makes me feel offended.

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You can just simply say “Hi, thanks! I’m not interested though ☺️”

Rude of her to ask again when you already stated not having any interest in that. She’s probably looking for convenient childcare for when she has her baby 😏

That is kind of manipulative. You can and should do whatever you want. Not what is convenient for someone else.

@Haley Thank you, I have replied, Indicating that.

@Sylvia I also think it's about convenient childcare. She's trying hard to guilt trip me into it. Saying she doesn't want to leave the little one with people she doesn't know 😊

You can simply tell her you can’t handle more than the kids you have at home and that’s completely valid too.

@Gina Yes, it is. I am not even ready to do it her way. Thank you for your words.

I would stand your ground. You don’t owe her anything.

@Sylvia And honestly, I truly can't. I am already exhausted and looking forward to some free time. Thank you for your words.

@Rebecca I would stand my ground. Thank you for your words

She’s probably panicking and feels like she could trust you, so see that as a compliment. But as others have said it’s your life and you don’t need to be manipulated. Keep it friendly if she lives next door but just let her know you already have plans to go back to work and put your own kids in childcare so you’re not able to help her in that regard

Just tell her that you haven’t changed your mind since last time and you won’t be changing it either.

No is a full sentence. Tell her that you've already planned out going back to work, so she'll need to find someone else to help her.

@Kathryn I do understand that, given that it is her first baby. And I am willing to support where necessary. Only that I am done with this phase of life. I ensured I responded with grace. Thank you for your words.

@Hopeful Yes, I ain't changing my mind about it. Thank you for your words

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