Advice Needed

Hi there! I’ve had this issue as well, i had thought of leaving many times over this. We had to have some uncomfortable conversations on the topic. Being transparent and honest is the best thing for all of you. I let my partner know that I am her bio parent, leave the harsh parenting part up to me. That it’s my main responsibility and let him know what other things he can do to help you parent if he’d like to be involved. Whatever that may be. Up to you. (If you want to still give it a shot). Men tend to wanna immediately be leader if they feel leading isn’t being done but in fact when it comes to your child you are the disciplinary person. It’s normal for him to feel secluded from the two of you. it’s perfectly normal. Something like this takes time and he’s gotta be willing to just be a supporter to you and follow in your lead. Now if he doesn’t like it then that’s his problem and he may need to leave. I constantly remind my partner of his place of building a relationship 1st. ❤️

Obviously this is all going to be different based off of people’s preferences and parenting styles but PERSONALLY i don’t believe there is ever a reason to yell at your kids unless what they are doing is going to endanger them or others. Is the yelling the only reason you are thinking of ending things or is there more to that? I wouldn’t stay in a relationship just because of the daughter being in a two parent household because trust me as someone who grew up without the father around and sadly will be same for my baby girl i would much rather have the childhood i had than to have seen what my mother was going through and be in an unstable unhappy home xxxx

@Ellie-May there is more to it. Between the lack of romance and ability to meet my needs and the fact he recently told me, because of financial issues I'm experiencing, he can't marry me, I'm just not happy.

then i would definitely say to think about your options - i was only asking because definitely if you have many reasons that you are unhappy then i believe you should leave if it is what’s best for you. definitely not stay purely because you want your daughter to have the two parents household as so many people don’t have that and raise their children brilliantly. Children do not care - they would rather have one really happy parent / two happy households whatever than one household with two parents who don’t make each other happy. Children are super intuitive and they will pick up on the fact you are unhappy - if you are not happy yourself you are only making it so much harder for yourself to do what makes you happy and do what you need for your baby girl xxx

A child doesn’t need to be yelled at by anyone, let alone a man who should be building a healthy relationship with her. It broke your heart because if you grew up with that, you know it’s not good, and you don’t want her to feel like the same way. Everyone needs to find a way to stop that yelling. A good father figure doesn’t yell, and he needs to come to that realisation now.