Is it just me??

My son the same, not every day but there are really bad days and really good ones. I realized that trying to impose any strong rules on him when he is having big feelings makes this a lot worse. Example - if he does not want to go to sleep although tired and is throwing a tantrum I should let him out of the room to play a bit and try again later. Forcing him to stay in the room does not work for us. So I am trying to be patient and have some wiggle room in the schedule, and redirect his attention slowly... Otherwise spending a lot of time outside helps us, trying to make sure he is drinking water enough and making sure he is not hungry with offering a banana/fruit often.

@Najdana she normally loves outside but recently has also been throwing tantrums when we go to the park or in the backyard for playtime. It’s so hard when they can’t just say what they want!😩

The more words/signs my son has, the less he's throwing tantrums. I agree with pp about taking a break and trying again later. There's so much brain development happening and practicing skills can help get something unstuck from their brain (by completing a task) so they can rest. I try to think of them as little people who think and feel like we do, but with much less understanding of how the world works and how to express themselves. Also, they comprehend far more than they can say, so holding your child for a small break can help them and you calm down and then try understanding them again. When there's a boundary, redirecting their attention helps them forget about the thing you said 'no' about

SAME my child is also 19 months and im having the SAME ISSUES

My son is the same 😵‍💫 I try to just go silent and calm myself since co-regulation is the only thing that seems to help. I find that once I'm calm and still, he slowly calms and stills. It's almost impossible when we're in the middle of walking out the door, doing something out in public etc though so in those moments I have no advice, just solidarity 😭😂 Our pediatrician also recommends trying to distract him - this works too!!

@Jessica I second the holding the boundary & redirecting! Reiterate the "no" ie "no, we can't play with that. here's a toy instead." and if he accepts it and plays with the toy, cool! if not, he can cry, and he will eventually "get over it" with me sitting still and letting him know I'm here for him with hugs and kisses in the meantime if he wants. Most of the time he just wants to cry and scream before he moves on to the next thing 🙃

I try to name the emotion and stay next to her while she calms then I offer her a hug and she usually feels better

Ugh, same here. Today was bad. Throwing food, spitting water, kicking during diaper changes, slapping my face, screaming meltdown trying to get her to wear gloves, etc. This is new behavior for us just starting this week. She’s also started waking at 5am screaming the past 2 weeks. Sooo hard to not react. I’m just praying it’s some developmental leap that will end soon!!

@Kat me and you both mama! We got this!!you’re doing great🫶🏼