Is this normal?

I feel like we are stuck in the same routine every day. Wake up, make breakfast, clean, cook, wash never-ending mountain of dishes, change nappies, and before I realise it's already nap time. She sleeps for about 2 hours, then wakes up, I cook and clean again for dinner. We don't really go out much, with the weather being cold and all the things that need doing day by day... it's all just so overwhelming, and I just can't find motivation and energy to do anything. Which is making me feel even worse as a parent. All this is just too much for me, and sometimes I just shout and shout because little things trigger me. There is a lot of anger in me, and honestly, I am scared of it as I've never been that type of person. I just don't know how to get out of this routine and start enjoying lige again...

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I feel this.. I’m not sure what the solution is really… I have 2 kids and now I’m wondering if people have a third because they look at their lives and just think ‘is this it?’.

Same! Xx

It sounds really tough! For me going out really helps. My son attends two classes per week (plus swimming on the weekend) that I take him to if I’m not working (if I am working my MIL takes him). Getting out and also talking to other adults really helps me. Have you got friends you can meet up with or someone who can help you with childcare and/or chores so you can do something for yourself? Can you leave the housework for one day per week at least so you can do something else that day? It might help break up the monotony. You could also reach out to your health visitor if you are struggling with your mental health.

@Viviane I've got a partner but he's working all week. Both mine and his parents don't live anywhere near. We've got no family close by basically. Just one friend that's already doing a lot for us. Rest of them, just moved on with their lifes since we were busy with our daughter and didn't have the time to go out etc... thanks for the advice ❤️

Ah that’s tough if you’re the only ones amongst your friends to have a child, it can change the dynamics quite a bit. Would it help you to meet more mums locally who have children too, e.g. a playgroup or something similar? Not having family nearby for support is tough, we only have one person nearby (my MIL) but wouldn’t know what to do without her.

Easier said than done, it is hard but it’s not forever but go out even if it’s for a walk the dishes etc can wait. I find getting out even with the pram grab a coffee it just clears your head and the fresh air is good for the little ones. You’ll be less likely to snap if you’ve had a little time out x

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I have 2 under 2. With no village in the UK. My husband and I prioritise me being able to go out. He does the laundry and tidies so I can get out and about with the girls- he knows I love a latte and a walk. Could you maybe try something like this on weekends? I also have postpartum rage and am reading a few books to ensure I don’t snap at my little girl. It’s so hard! Please be kind to yourself when the baby gets older it also varies more xx

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