Breastfeeding dilemma

Hi everyone, I have a bit of a dilemma of my own making and wanted your thoughts. I'm breastfeeding my baby and feel strongly about being able to do this openly and not covering up with a muslin (I'm wearing nursing clothes to do it so you can't see much anyway). I have a friend coming over soon who needs her husband to drive her because of a health problem- I said of course they can both come round. They are relatively conservative Muslims so I checked in that he'd be ok with me breastfeeding in this way, and she replied that he wouldn't. So now I'm not sure what to do. I want them to feel comfortable but at the same time that then involves changing what I do and believe in, in my own space. I find myself feeling resentful of that as this is not strictly my issue- this is what breasts are for after all. If I was going to theirs I'd of course respect their rules but should they then respect what I do when coming to mine? Is there a way to be culturally sensitive and stick to my beliefs, or should I just swallow all this and cover up as this is respectful of them? I'm also from a minority group and know how nice it feels when someone is culturally respectful / mindful of me. I'd greatly appreciate any thoughts or similar experiences and how you came to your decisions about what to do 🙏
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This is tough. Is there any way he can stay in another room while you feed, as a compromise?

Hey, I have friends whos husbands feel uncomfortable with me breastfeeding in their presence. They simply slip into another room when I feed and slip back in when I'm done. Their choice, not mine. So maybe sensitively say "I'll let you know when I'm about to feed and again when I'm done if you would prefer to slip into another room?". Then it's sensitive, it's their choice snd you can be comfortable in your own home. Hope that helps

The husband should go sit back in the car or another room while you breastfeed xxx

You can still offer him drinks/food etc but I think the best solution is to have a separate space for him to be in, or if thats not available either his car or in a chair facing away from you.

When I visited my friends.. the husbands were going to other room, or they let me go to other room so it’s comfortable for all of us..

Thanks everyone 🙏

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