Gaining/losing friends
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Out of my close friendship group I’m the first one to have a baby and if any follow suit it will be a long time off yet. So it’s a bit difficult because they all still live in London and we are in very different stages of our lives. Naturally I just can’t do as much socially as I used to so now the invites dwindle. I find because they don’t underused how it is, there’s not many check ins about how I’m doing in motherhood. But on the flip side it’s actually nice when I do see them to chat about other stuff. I feel more like Courtney again, being asked about work etc. It’s a bit clicky at our baby group as it’s a small village, everyone already knows everyone. But a couple of nice mums that I want to make an effort with. But I’d say no new friends yet. It’s hard xx
I’ve noticed a lot of friends ain’t there as much anymore we talk over phone but never really see each other
I have a small group of friends I've met in the baby groups. It's lovely because the babies are so close in age so they will likely grow up together and go to school together and that's lovely. With regards to losing, I lost my closest friend. She had already moved out of the country but we remained close, however once I told her I was pregnant she distanced herself massively. She experienced two losses so I understand it was hard for her but she also knew how long we'd tried for so I thought she'd be there for me in some way. Sadly that wasn't the case. 🤷🏻♀️