Help!!

I can hear how much you're trying and how challenging this has been for you. It's clear that you care deeply about your daughter and want to do what's best for her. Have you considered having her evaluated by a professional, like a pediatrician, psychologist, or occupational therapist? Sometimes behaviors like the ones you're describing can be linked to underlying needs or conditions, and an evaluation might give you more insight and guidance. Getting support early can make such a difference for both of you, and there are often tools and strategies that can help. You're doing an amazing job by seeking solutions and advocating for your daughter.

Have you ever had her evaluated for adhd and sensory issues? I would also suggest counseling too. She sounds like she struggles to communicate her feelings. I don't think you are a bad mom. You are doing great and I hope this helps.

No she needs to have an IEP at school so they can handle her. Also test her for adhd don’t ask about meds but alternative on what to do set up a care plan. Got to remember she’s a kid and not an adult all kids are hyper

We got her evaluated for autism at 2 years because she had delayed speech and they said she had autism but when we did another evaluation in February this year, they rules Autism out. I have another behavioral evaluation for next year April.

I am so helpless and so sad

Getting calls from her school principal and her teacher every weeks is so draining

Maybe try mental health therapy? When I was a therapist I worked w/ children as young as 5. Sounds like she is having difficulty expressing herself appropriately, maybe attention seeking, or over/under stimulated at school. Could be a variety of things. To add, sometimes even the teacher could be a trigger for her, does the teacher seem empathetic toward your daughter or angry at her behaviors? Just some things to consider. Also, i see you mentioned she will get a behavioral eval next year which is great! In the mean time, you should familiarize yourself with how to provide her with therapeutic techniques, maybe the school could use the information as well, so that they can attempt to deescalate + redirect the behaviors.

If she was evaluated and diagnosed with autism then she should’ve had an IEP done. I know it’s not easy having a child on the spectrum because even though I’m not a parent to one but I’m an aunt to one and I see how draining it could be on my oldest sister. It’s hard to be the outcast and be different. It took her awhile to get my nephew into a school and find someone who can work with special needs kids. My son is diagnosed with ADHD and we’re having another assessment in January for further evaluation because his behavior was concerning.

@Jasmine her school started counseling with her to help her. I am not sure if it’s helping honestly.

@s a r a 🥀 Yes she has an IEP I suspect ADHD but unsure Sometimes I cannot differentiate between if she is just being stubborn cos some of her actions seems very intentional. It’s just so hard

What state are you in?

Massachusetts

So sorry you’re going through this my daughter has some similarities. Changing her diet I do think helped with her behavior. We did welcome a second child last week and noticed she was being very manipulative to us and disruptive in school. We have been lose about her diet. I incorporated better vitamins in her diet and we slacked on that too unfortunately. I think diet and sugar intake plays a role. We also incorporated a star system in our home and she loves that. She gets a star At the end of the day depending on how her day went and a prize at the end of the week. You got this momma !

Ok I thought I was only mom struggling my daughter is 4 and in prek and I get a text from her teacher everyday…but I wonder sometime is she just bored bc she came from a daycare that teaches and she is advance more than the ones in her class like they a need a challenge

@Chantal🇯🇲🇭🇹 What kind of diet do you give her? any specific foods to give her more of and which ones do I stay away from?

@Jasmine yea very possible. It’s very hard to tell honestly. Some days are way harder than others. And when I talk to her, it feels like it falls on deaf ears

Your daughter sounds like my sons twin. Except when he was at school he was an angel. The tantrums have always been at home. What seems to work for us - no sugar. As in no candy, junk food, etc. No cereal for breakfast unless it’s something with high fiber. Meals should be protein, fat and fiber with a small serving of carbs. Of course some days they will not eat it. But something as simple as adding butter to eggs and toast with avocado and 2 dates. Is she pooping and sleeping regularly? Does she get adequate time to play outside? Can you set aside two 10 minute blocks during the day to specifically play with her. Let her lead the play. No interrupting her and no distractions. Can you and dad set aside a breakfast or lunch date with her one a month? Give her challenges to accomplish through the day. Such as helping with chores or pushing and pulling a heavy laundry basket. Can you get her a food allergy test panel?

I don’t follow a specific diet but certain foods I try to stay away from. Sugar , is what I’ve noticed makes her defiantly more hyper and very difficult to listen. I incorporate more veggies , fruit and high protein diet. Some I also bought the brand hiya for more vitamins and we’ve noticed she’s more focused. Also we changed her bedtime to earlier as well so she has more time to wine down.

@Dolly Thank you so much … I will try this out. She has history of constipation so she on stool softener. She sleeps at night for atleast 10-11 hrs Now that it’s cold we don’t go out as often but she plays inside. I do lunch dates with her and we have dinner couple times a month. We have also be giving her reading and maths exercises and she seem to be doing very well with it. She is just extremely hyperactive and never listens throughout the day but seems like she’s worse at school.

Wow describes my 5-year-old daughter, autistic. only my daughter also has language delay, and it can become very frustrating for her and for me too. 🫠 patience mom