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Things that people shouldn’t say when someone’s lost a baby

I actually hate when people say things like “at least you’ve got one” like that doesn’t mean I can’t be sad I’ve just had someone die inside me Or “try not to think about it, you have to be strong for___” Or before the appointments when your high risk “have you prepared yourself just incase?” How tf do you prepare for something like that I’ve spent the last 3 weeks crying worrying about it These got to me so so much

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The things people say are insane and wildly insensitive and will have no idea and mean no harm. Hurts all the same!

People can be so inconsiderate , I’m so sorry. I got “it sounds like it just wasn’t meant to be and it’s not your time”. We had our own house we were in a great position financially and we were surrounded by people in less ideal situations than ourselves who had kids or were pregnant I couldn’t get my head round it. Like when will it be my time if not now. I still think about it now 2 kids on. It doesn’t matter how many kids you have a loss is a loss. Hope everything turns out okay for you xx

So sorry for the things people say!! My nan said to my mum "has Debbie got over it yet?" X

I got told, "she had 3 heart defects and Down Syndrome, what makes you think she would've had a good quality of life anyway". She passed at 4 months, after 2.5 mo the on lifesupport, total organ failure, barely made it to us letting her go. We knew we'd put live her we were just hoping we had longer with her. Another common one is/was, "atleast kane and rj (her older half brothers) wont have to suffer having her around"

"Oh well, these things happen and can't be helped. We must all move on" .... thanks nan! Sending love to you 💜

@Marnie my MIL said this too 🥲 and “can’t dwell on the past”

I also recently got "I thought I'd feel better now we've had his funeral, and feel I can move on" .... Gee, thanks.... It's literally been 4 weeks!?! 😒😒😒