Comparing babies
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Also lead by example. Try not to worry about your baby's being a bit slower with physical movement milestones as it doesn't make any difference to her in total. In a couple years, no one is going to know or care how quick she was to roll (or talk). Same with your friends baby. Though it's natural for us to get excited and look forward to the next milestone, really they have little meaning. My mum was *that* kind of BF nazi everyone wants to avoid and was bragging that I had been breastfed when I was maybe 8 years old and it was the most bizarre thing as obvs it had nothing to do with that what I achieved later on but its what she believes. I don't think I could be friends with someone like that who still drags it up years later. The pressure my mum is putting on me now to copy her is so mental knowing she's going to not let it go for the rest of her life 🫣😫
With my eldest, my friend at work also had a baby at the same time (6w apart). Her daughter was doing everything either early or spot on, mine was late 😂 now they're 2 her it's still similar, mine was a late talker so is still learning where as hers was early, she's obviously talking normally now where as mine can talk in sentences but hasn't got all the words yet :) I always compared and I shouldn't and I know I shouldn't but couldn't help it 😂 when yours is later in one area I see nothing wrong with being happy about an area they're doing very well in. For her saying you're bragging it's probably because she feels as though her baby isn't as far ahead now and probably not even remembering hers did other things earlier and now just feels as though hers is behind
Hmm maybe have a chat with her about it? It sounds like its verging on a toxic friendship rather than just being happy and supportive for each others little ones. But it sounds on the verge where Im sure if you just communicate with her about how you feel then you will both feel better. Its hard not to compare but its not good for either of you or for your babies. Every child is amazing and goes at their own pace, we are all different and thats what makes things interesting 🤗
Mmmm I would stop being friend with her
That's really frustrating, she shouldn't compare. I haven't met anyone acting like that tbh, just have a cousin who had a baby 3 months before me so my whole family is comparing them which drives me insane and it was the same when I was growing up compared to this same cousin who was 15 mo older than me. She herself is great its the older generation. I have asked them to stop and tried to be calm about explaining why. Fingers crossed. I also just said it's pointless as 3 months is a huge difference at this stage, different parents different genders they live in different countries and climates and my family got that a bit more. Every baby is unique and develops at their own pace so comparison serves no purpose except to ruin relationships and moods!