MIL- AITA?

So husband and his mom got into an argument last month and I haven’t heard from her since. Granted, she didn’t even wish my daughter happy 1st birthday or send a card. She got upset because I asked what airline she purchased tix for us on months ago( we never used them) and I was going to see if we could use the tix to go see my bonus daughter instead of her. Bonus daughter just had her 2nd baby(15m old and 3m old) She was “disappointed that the question was even asked” so hubs got upset and they said a lot to each other. I stayed out of it because some of the things she said hurt my feelings a bit. Whatever. I haven’t sent pictures of the baby since and told hubs that unless they ask, I’m done sending… it’s not my responsibility for them to have a relationship with her, it’s theirs (grandma and uncles). Am I the Ahole?

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As someone pointed out to me; to be involved, you have to be involved. I downloaded an app that I can upload photos of bub to. I can send invites to anyone who wants access to them so they can stay as updated as they want to be with him growing up.

What did she purchase the tickets for, and why didn't you use them? Bonus daughter, as in your partners daughter, as in her granddaughter?

I feel like asking for the tickets to see someone else when she paid for them is rude.

@Hannah she purchased them when I was like 3-4m pp and pumping around the clock . Husband and I decided that it would be too much stress on me and baby to travel at that time. Yes husband daughter from prior relationship. Yea her first granddaughter and two great grand babies

@Katherine she had previously said she was going to come visit us. And then decided to visit her other son twice, and now it was inconvenient for her to travel to us because she travelled too much with going to see the other son.

Just let your husband deal with her going forward. She clearly requires a delicate touch and can get petty. Let him convey that you apologize for asking about the tickets, and you did not intend to upset her. He can be in charge of pictures, too. She'll get less, but thems the brakes. The truth is she really wants a visit from you, to connect, but in the execution, she broke some stuff. Try to go easy on her, this happens to all of us at some point.