IMAGINE IF WE HAD TO SEND AN APPLICATION TO BECOME PARENTS 🙂.
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@FairyMother okay I see your reasoning here ,since parenthood is search a natural thing ,you can’t just deny people that ,but marriage proposals should be a thing 😅…
I had a toddler and was 7mo pregnant when I got married. However we did take classes and had a home visitor nurse to help prepare us. I don't think a marriage is relevant to parenthood but I do agree that kids deserve to be in a family with parents who are in a committed and happy relationship
"Spiritual safety" sounds like it'd be used to remove kids from the homes of people who aren't the dominant religion 🤔 I doubt you mean it that way, but it's giving Native American boarding/residential school. I get wishing people were more prepared and educated when it comes to have kids, but the precedent set by a lot of these ideas in practice are a slippery slope to eugenics
Had ivf in the uk and had to go through an ethics board who then basically had the decision as to whether or not I was suitable to be a parent 🤷♀️
Whenever posts like this come up, I know they’re well meaning, but it could never work in the real world. Who determines the criteria and administers the test? How is it scored? Can they be trusted? Does it accurately predict good parenting? What happens when people fail? Forced abortions or adoptions? Or is everyone sterilized/put on birth control at the onset of puberty and can only have it reversed when they pass the test? Can you take it more than once, or is it a one-shot deal? If one parent passes but the other doesn’t are they now forced to choose between their spouse and future child? Who follows up and enforces the consequences of failing? Pragmatically speaking, it would never be possible without some pretty heinous human rights violations.
@Genevieve that’s why the post mentions “corruption” I thought of all that you said and that’s why there’s an option of it never working…
@Rachel come to think of it,most of people who I know,and have openly talked about it,they did some kind of interview to become a parent.
@Raqi personally I was thinking the complete opposite,spiritual safety AWAY from being recruited into dominant religions by birth .Basically children are free of religions of their parents.
@FairyMother from what I’ve personally witnessed,and a lot of children suffer issues with marriage/relationships .Absolutely a lot of people would profit from some kind of therapy pre-marriage.
@Bald Offy👩🏾🦲 right. You put the option “could never work ,(comments).” which I chose and added my comments.
i think i’d pass with flying colors haha.
@quiddo aah ,you get it.I truly love people who actually believe in themselves,this is the confidence I’m looking for ..
@Bald Offy👩🏾🦲 thank you! of course corruption theories aside, if the scoring system is being fair i think i’d have an A+
@Genevieve yeah you really explained why it couldn’t work very well ,there’s clearly no doubt there.
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@quiddo that’s is the attitude,I think people doubt themselves a little too much ,I expected a lot more of (yes bcz I’m a good parent)😅,actually that’s the winning poll so far
It’s beyond corruption theories; even with the perfect criteria, and “applicants” being justifiably denied, what then? How is it enforced? It could never work in a free society that recognizes human rights.
@Genevieve yes just like you said in your 1st long comment.i get it.
@Bald Offy👩🏾🦲 I’m really not sure where the animosity is coming from (or maybe I’m misinterpreting your tone), but you posed the question, I assumed to hear opinions and start a dialogue. Instead you’re being quite dismissive of valid points. Just because I can’t envision a just way of implementing it, doesn’t mean I’m not open to hearing how others think it could work.
I adopted, so we basically did 😂 we had to answer questions about how we were raised and how we wanted to parent, get medical clearance, and have someone come make sure our house was safe.
Maybe not applications but I think it should be required attend some parenting classes before giving birth (for both parents! & if it's a surrogacy/adoption situation then the adoptive parents should attend) and failure to attend would result in an automatic visitation from CPS. Although lots of things would need to be in place before that could ever be realistic. Classes should have flexible availability and cover wages if someone is missing work to attend it, transportation for classes needs to be free and available, and CPS workers need to be trained better and cases need to be handled with more care. Just an idea, but I know it's not a realistic one rn and likely has several flaws. It's impossible to regulate who can become parents but it may be possible in the future to ensure new parents have the education and resources they need!