Am I the only one??

I’m a 44 year old with a 8 year old daughter and I don’t put up with sass. Her privileges get taken away

I take her privileges away also. Glad to hear I'm not the only one taking things away.

40 with a 3 year old and she's already starting sassitude. What do I do 😫 but sometimes it's funny/cute.

Same same 😀

@Jennifer threenagers are a whole vibe 😆

We frame it as consequences v. punishment. Consequences should be a natural result of the behavior. She has started loving to play games on her tablet, and screentime has always been an effective incentive/consequence. Like if you don't do X you won't have time for screens because we're wasting time on this thing. If you don't get ready for bed, you don't have time for stories. If you throw that, it gets taken away. If you don't clean up and I have to do it, all the things I pick up get put away for a while.

As far as "having an attitude" and griping about things, I just try to remember that they are full humans and they are allowed to have negative feelings. I want to teach healthy emotional regulation, not obedience. I want to be her safe space to express herself, even if I'm the brunt of it at times. They deserve explanations as to "why" behaviors are expected. Being mean, rude, or hateful are not tolerated but I avoid a "you must respect me because I'm an authority figure" because that can come back to bite you when they get older (I was one of those angsty rebellious teens). That may mean I ask if/suggest she needs a few minutes to go off by herself and calm down, and now she will declare herself that's what she needs sometimes. And sometimes I lose my temper and get fed up and tell and tell her she's too old to be throwing tantrums. I'm human too. I always apologize when that happens.

I guess it depends on the sass. In general I take deep breaths and a lot of positive self talk to myself. Also, I assess if the sass is just them expressing their emotions, is it triggering me for some reason, is it actually disrespectful and needs to be nipped in the bud, etc.

44 with a 4 year-old you're not alone I'm tired and frustrated

one day at a time

i want to start a pod

i started a pod

@J hi