Oh no she didn’t.

Hey yall, got a little story time haha im LIVID. So my man talked me into my son staying the night with his mom. My MIL. I thought the little break would be nice so i can catch up on house stuff (little man is 3 months). My lil booger is crib trained and sleeps through the night. When we dropped him off i sent her his schedule chart for feed times and other things she could have had questions about. The next day we come and pick him up and she’s feeding him, no biggie, i look at the clock and it’s 3:45 which is 2 hours past his feeding time. and only 15 mins until his “next” feeding. So i was a little upset about that so i ask how he slept, she proceeds to tell me she Coslept with my child. haha are you serious? You never cosleep with someone else’s kid. He is crib trained on top of that so there was no need. she also didn’t put him to bed at his 8 pm bed time but instead 11. so now his sleep schedule and feeding schedule is off and now he refuses to lay in his crib. This was my last straw. She’s always saying smart comments towards me and comments on my parenting like she was parent of the year. I told my man that me and my son won’t be back. I tried to explain to him but all he does is defend her saying she didn’t mean it like that. but she was a mother too once, she knows what she is doing. And what would she have done if she was to accidentally hurt him while they coslept? like what is wrong with her brain chemistry to think that’s okay. Idk i’m just venting at this point because i’ve worked so hard for his feeding schedule and sleep schedule to work for our family, he used to sleep from 8 pm to 9:30 am now he wakes up at 6 and won’t go back to sleep. And also he’s back in our bed so i wasn’t able to get any sleep ( we coslept but quit because it became unsafe because my son likes to burrow his face in your arm or under your side) which is why i decided to crib train him which my mil told me i was traumatizing him and abandoning him by wanting him to sleep in his crib. Any advice for this tired mama?

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Your MIL sounds likes mines! She has no respect or no boundaries whatsoever!! I would just distance yourself from her! No contact!

You’re the mother!! You know best!! She’s a grandmother, yes; doesn’t mean she gets to disrespect you and your boundaries. I’m pretty sure there’s something I read about how only mothers of the child are able to safely cosleep (not sure though and obviously cosleeping isn’t always safe). I hate it when my schedule is messed up, let alone when my baby’s schedule is messed up. Idk how much your partner does with the baby, but if you’ve spent however much time sorting out a schedule for sleeping and feeding, then you have a right to be pissed… cos it’ll most likely be you fixing it. Hope you get some rest soon ❤️‍🩹

Oh my fgg… I literally just gasped, im it against co sleeping but it’s common sense and part of the safe sleep 7, that parents ONLY especially breastfed babies and moms together as it reduces the risk of SIDs, I can’t believe it, she could have killed him! Hard no, she wouldn’t be coming anywhere near my baby again, entitled cow she sounds like! x

Just don't leave your baby at her house again ..and if she gonna ask you why don't you leave him you can answer all these you said that after that she ruined his routine..that simple..

nooooo the worst part is the schedule being messed up!!! i’m so sorry :((( i’m sure it took awhile to get him to sleep in the crib and get such good sleep but since he’s done it before it should be a bit easier this time around. i know i know totally annoying to have to do it in the first place but it’s gonna get worse before better… but you can do it!!! and also i hate this woman. i would distance myself from her and if she ever asks why or what’s wrong, tell her straight out. she’s not afraid to hurt ur feelings so i wouldn’t be afraid to hurt hers. i would say “bc you deliberately disrespected me, etc” i hope things get better soon mama ❤️

Why are MILs like this

Omg I would NEVER cosleep with someone else’s child. I don’t understand this whole control thing with mother in laws, I really don’t. It’s sooo simple, respect the mum and follow set rules around THEIR child/children and you get more access & fun times with your grandchild. So simple yet their pride always comes first 🙄 Speaking from experience, I’d cut contact. I’ve been in a losing battle for almost 4 years & no matter what I do I’m wrong. Constantly moaned at for my family having more involvement, going absolutely anywhere and not inviting them (could even be the shop & I’m wrong for doing that without them). Can’t win so best way forward was to just not have contact. Hope you’re okay xx

Lol yeah my mom co sleeps with my toddler niece I find it creepy

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