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Thanks so much for posting, I feel exactly the same. Feel free to private message me and we can hopefully help each other. We should also take comfort in that every moment is fleeting and we will look back and think how hard it was but won’t remember the struggle. My son is 12 weeks tomorrow and he absolutely hates everything new such as tummy time etc. I’m really struggling to adjust as this life is so different! Keep strong mama, it’s not forever ❤️
I felt like this with my first, but I promise you it gets easier. My friends really pushed me to try and get out with her and the more I did it the more confident we both got. I hope things get easier! ❤️
This is my second child, but I am finding this time much harder than the first, largely down to the reflux that my baby is suffering with. I feel like I am constantly dealing with sick. I do get out as much as possible though, and it really helps. One thing that I've learnt since being a mum is that everything is a phase and it does pass. It will get easier. It might be a good idea to contact your GP if you're feeling down xx
Sending you a virtual hug. It is so tough. And I think there is so much pressure on enjoying it all! When actually much of it is survival mode. Do you have any support around you? It’s hard when you are exhausted, your boobs ache and you feel like you are stuck in a cycle and he is so reliant on you, but it’s really helped me to force myself to speak to friends and my partner about how I’m feeling, as well as trying to find groups and even 30 mins once a day where my partner now feeds a bottle of formula or expressed milk- makes me feel like I can gain a breather and some identity back. My girl will also only contact nap during the day-screams bloody murder in the pram or anywhere else even with white noise and darkness etc etc but the wrap with her head tucked in so she is snug and it is dark has been so life changing- let’s me get on with things and feel like I have a bit more me time. She is 14 weeks. I hope the allergies and reflux start to settle for your bub soon!
@Amy thank you ❤️ yes he’s on medication and also prescribed formula for top ups as he wasn’t gaining weight due to reflux/CMPA so I was having to BF and express. It’s really tough, we’ve been advised to wean early so hoping that will help xx
@Shelley thank you. It just feels like when we go out he screams and just needs something, his wake windows are so short! By the time we get anywhere he then needs a nap but won’t nap independently eg sitting in car seat. I feel really sad that I’m not a ‘natural’ mum x
@Ella sorry to hear you are dealing with reflux too, it’s really hard. Xx
@Erin I don’t have any family or friends with children where I live so it’s just my husband and I, really starting to feel it now. Definitely was not expecting it to be this hard! Xx
I think you are a natural mum because it sounds like you’re doing everything you can for your baby and to keep them comfortable ❤️ when naps fall into more of a pattern it might help to be able to plan your day a bit more.
I went to my doctor today and asked if it was nut allergies to be miserable 90% of the time. She said it was not and we are adjusting my medication. I have a toddler and a 3 month old so I totally understand
I’m so sorry you feel like this… have you spoke to the GP or HV to get some advice? Also have you considered stopping breastfeeding? It may help you feel more yourself and give you an opportunity to have a break. I did it for 5 months with my first and found it tremendously stressful on my mental health. With my august baby I combi fed and still only lasted 6 weeks xx