Do I leave?

I hate to say this and I know it’s hard. But try and have a conversation with him. Let him know you’re going to leave if he doesn’t get his drinking under control. Give him a date you want to see change or you will leave. After you tell him don’t bring it up again and see if you see him trying to change.

@Jlatu Hey, as a professional who works with families who have family members with addiction and drinking problems, it’s a lot complicated and no ultimatums don’t work with people who have a drinking problem. @Megan make sure you take care of yourself & your little one that’s your priority ❤️

What khadija (awesome name btw despite me probably butchering how its pronounced) said. My ex is the same way and im alot happier than when i was with him

I don’t know if you should leave or not, but it likely isn’t going to change. (I know some people do change) Even if he wasn’t with drink in hand hes still leaving you to care for child alone, so it’s not that he’s just not caring for baby but also not caring for you. Babies are a lot of work but kids are a lot of work too, life is a lot of work . And it doesn’t sound like he’s being considerate of you . I always took care of our baby which I didn’t mind too because I loved her. But after a few years of being totally sleep deprived and doing everything it was too much.

@Khadija you are absolutely right addiction is very complicated, but leaving may be the wake up call he needs. Not only is he drinking but he is choosing to make Megan a single mom by not being present for their child at times. Some people love drinking and to each his own. My ex loves drinking more than I would like but he made sure to do after baby went to bed and if we were out at functions we took turns who was going to be the primary care taker. The primary care taker didn’t drink and let the other parent enjoy themselves. I’m just saying for Megan not to stay in a situation she’s going to regret down the road and why would he change if life is all comfy and his drinking is accommodated?