Do yall ever think back and get so pissed off…

I get mad a lot about the shit my husband did. But I also have to remind myself I stayed and nobody made me do it. The fact that love hurts makes me understand I have to get over the past to see a brighter future.

@Dre Lesha and that’s the thing!!! I hate thinking about the past but sometimes it literally just happens out of nowhere and my mood goes down…but he changed like all the way and I just want to move on fr my mind don’t let me

Same Boat like I literally experienced it today! Was mad at myself and told myself it wasn’t healthy to keep that in my mind. So trust I get what you’re saying. :( we are human also and as a woman our emotions sometimes override the way we want to feel.

Yes and it’s very hard to change focus and not reflect on the past. It happens tho and just try to remember how far we’ve come

I’m not on this group but happens to me a lot and I get so upset and even cry. I have the feeling of regret that why I allowed my husband to treat me like shit and not dump him. I’ve become much stronger and I can eat him alive if he ever treats me like that but it really makes my heart hurt thinking about the past and what I went through.

@Simi omg meeeee…when he was an addict he did some real hurtful shit but once I actually laid it on him and told him I’m not having that shit no more he stopped even has some tests and tells me if I’m ever doubting him he’ll take one…but the thoughts come in and I just want to bust his ass 🙄🙄

@Nai it really is…because he’s an extremely different person from back then and I love it I don’t want to lose that over my dumb self not being able to get over the past

@Dre Lesha it’s nice to know I’m not the only one because I feel guilty since he’s not that person anymore at all but it was at one point and it hurts

Yes

Of course! I would start some therapy to work through the trauma and anger and I would consider jumping in on some Al-Anon meetings. They have them on zoom all day every day!