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I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but everytime I’m around my boyfriend I’m in a bad mood and even thinking about him stresses me out and pisses me off. There’s not even a particular reason, every little thing he does agitates me. I’m feeling bored and held back, but he was my first boyfriend and I do love him. I don’t know if I want to leave him and we just had a baby together but he doesn’t even want to live with me because he’s too scared of the amount of commitment that is. Idek I just need advice.

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how old is baby? and how much time is he putting in with you on a daily basis to help take care of you and baby both?

@Sarah he’s 7 weeks and I see my bf like 3 times a week. he only does what I tell him to do, he never offers anything. sometimes I’ll have to ask for things multiple times before he pulls through. but then other days he’s super amazing and helpful so I’m just confused.

Aww I'm sorry. That sounds really tough! 😢

Well if he's too scared of commitment then maybe you have to look at the relationship and ask yourself if you wanna deal with this for the rear of your life. With baby being 7 weeks old it's the best time to figure out plan b. I'm always here love

Sounds like you deserve so much more in a love relationship 💔 I get that it’s hard with a new baby - but sounds like he isn’t in it. Maybe if you distance yourself it’ll give him room to step it up at least as a dad - but really, you and everyone else deserves amazing love and I’m a big cheerleading for going off and finding it because I found mine after leaving a relationship that was making me feel like you described. I was going to therapy thinking I was depressed and realized it was my relationship - not me

so you're basically a single parent right now. that's absurd. chances are you're feeling this way because you're not feeling supported by the one person who is supposed to support you the most right now, and your feelings are totally valid! he's not afraid of committing to you, he's afraid of committing to giving up his lifestyle and his freeddom to be a full-time parent. and this gives you the shit end of the stick because now you're left to do so much on your own while still recovering from birthing a baby that BOTH of yall made, and you're feeling resentment towards him that's only going to get stronger. my partner was wonderfully supportive when I was newly pp, and I still resented him because I was taking on so much more of the newborn care. I can only imagine how you can be feeling. is he staying over those 3 days or are you doing overnights completely by yourself as well?

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