Why are people so obsessed with what others are getting their children for Xmas 🎄

It is interesting though seeing the huge differences. Or on this app people talking about budgets and then you look at the age of the child and wonder if they would answer the same when their child is ten. I think naturally people are just nosy and there’s a bit of “keeping up with the jones”.

Im more looking for ideas 😂

For me, I'm all about birthdays, and I 100% will go crazy for my daughters birthday, as well as I'd like to be able to buy her things as and when throughout the year so because of that I'm not spending lots and lots on her for Christmas when I've got 10 other people to buy gifts for. She's 8 months old, so she doesn't care yet, but obviously, the older she gets, the more I'll spend, with a limit, because spending a full paycheck on gifts is insane to me. I'd rather spend that on a holiday. But I don't care what other people spend on their kids. It's your money. Do what you want with it.

Interesting. I’ve never seen anyone shamed for spending too little.

I only ask to get ideas for my own! Mine is 18 months this Christmas so we haven’t gone crazy and will probably spend less next year. His main presents are a toy kitchen and Toniebox too!

@Dana 🦅♥️🤍💙 I saw yesterday on TikTok a lady going through what she’d bought as stocking fillers, it was mostly poundshop/b&m and the amount of comments calling her a tramp/cheap/bad mom was honestly horrendous!

Up to now I've gotten mine cardboard boxes from the front on the way out from Sainsbury's 😄. It was all they played with! For MONTHS! Didn't cost me a penny. We decorated them, turned them into houses, cars, doll beds, cat beds and even had fun destroying them. 🤷🏾‍♀️ This is the first year I'm actually buying something. I think some parents want to boast. Others wish they could buy their children everything but financially cannot and get upset at those who can. Some ask because they're unsure what to get. Some may be aware they go over the top so ask so they can gage if they're going overboard or not. I don't know. I don't care either. 🤷🏾‍♀️ 🤭 It baffles me when people get themselves into serious debt they know they'll not be able to get out of so that their children can have what other children have. I can't afford it we'll make do with something else or what we can afford.

I don't understand why the shaming to be fair. To be 100% sincere we only got one present for my baby (a toy kitchen) and it's because 1. he's one year old and already has a lot of toys and 2. He's already getting presents from his uncles, grandparents and friends, he will get more than enough but also I saw how other kids get so much that gets to a point they don't appreciate the presents and they expect a minimum amount of presents or "money" spent on them and that's not something I want for my child. But I can see the other side, my best friend is one of those parents that goes all out for Christmas and spends loads of money on presents and she knows her daughter got spoilt and doesn't appreciate the presents as much but when she was little they were really poor so for her is really important to have a lot of presents under the tree. And who am I to judge? It's her daughter and her money. She spends that money on presents and I spent the same money on something else that she might see as pointless...

I personally don't care. I do think though that when people get really expensive gifts it should come from mom and dad not Santa. It's sad when Santa gets a tablet or Xbox for one kid and then blocks or a teddy bear for another.. I think people that can't afford as much for their kids are just a little jealous of people that buy a lot but also some people do just spend alot for Christmas, which at that point they are probably just boasting

Some definitely want to boast to make themselves feel some kind of way- those who ask for ideas for Christmas presents and then reel off a long list of what they've got so far and what the child already has 😂 I can afford to spend more on mine than I do 🤷🏼‍♀️ but I don't need a house full of crap just to make myself feel good for buying them loads at Christmas. Also that way, they won't be ungrateful and spoilt if one year they didn't get as much.

I don't care what others do, but I do remember one year on a Christmas group I'm in a mum posted a pic of her kids Christmas piles and you could hardly see her tree, but someone who knew her said the huge boxes were new matresses, pillows which she (mum) said the kids needed and the kids were sad/crying at the excitement then disappointment of what was in them and I can see their POV as to me the basics/necessities aren't Christmas gifts (woman wasn't poor, far from it) but said she wrapped them to make the kids piles of "gifts" look more impressive. Sad for her kids thinking they were getting something amazing and sad for the mum to think what others thought of her pile of gifts was that important to her. I dont go overboard as after 28 years of being a mum I've learnt the kids love what they get and quality over quanity is more important to me.

Get off TikTok girl. That’s not happening in the real world.

@Lisa you talking to me? I don't use tiktok

@Heather nope, OP. Would have @ you if I was talking to you..

Not everyone does lol

@Lisa what are you talking about?

Spend what u want, but some of the TikToks I’ve been seeing is just over consumption of toys. It feels very materialistic. I don’t think it’s a great example to children