Friends distanced themselves during pregnancy
I’m 33 but the first in my friendship group to be pregnant or to even TTC, I’m now near the end of third trimester and have been so surprised how unsupportive / unbothered my friends have been during this time. They haven’t checked in or ask questions and I’ve had to initiate all our recent meet ups. I don’t want to be OTT and hormonal but equally feel quite hurt by this and thinking if I now should distance myself. Would love any advice
I went through a similar experience except i’m not the first to have a baby, but most my close friends who have kids moved away, but still i felt very lonely. i took a step back, i thought what would i advise my child one day when it comes to friendships- self worth! So i got busy meeting new women in similar stages of life and focused on building new relationships- it was amazing. You meet the women who become rocks in those early months of becoming a mummy- they build you up, share in your joy and excitement but also the difficult times! You will find out just how much your current friends value you by taking that step back and then seeing who comes to eventually check in and see how you are- it will be up to you to accept that or have an honest conversation about being hurt. Until you go through pregnancy you really can’t understand how hard it is on your body physically and mentally- they won’t have a clue how much you are going through until they go through it themselves..!