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I got a second degree tear and my uterus prolapsed and I’m having great sex!!! It’s a little tender going in but lube is your best friend with that part! I still get twinges and stuff where my tear was so I think it’s normal like nerve stuff that will take a while to heal but don’t be too scared to have sex bc it not bad at all!!!!

We started back after 8 weeks. I had a 2nd degree tear and have had sex a few times now. I highly recommend being on top for a couple times so you can control it and go slow initially. It took a couple times but it’s feeling less painfully tight now and it only lasted for a few minutes initially anyway. I was more sore than I expected after the first time. Use condoms with lube or get lube to help. I was so scared but felt like I had to kind of rip the bandaid off and get back to having sex or I’d keep being anxious. Be very clear about how you’re feeling with your SO and let them know you may need to stop if you decide it’s too much.

I got a second degree tear as well (my daughter is 9 weeks old), and I also have a lot of scar tissue. It’s not sensitive to the touch, but like you said, it’s all very tight and hard and tender. I started having sex again around 7 weeks pp. Not gonna lie, it hurt like hell at first, but it’s not unbearable. Lots of lube, deep breathing, and taking our time were crucial for me. Try focusing on whatever parts of sex feel good and letting your body relax into it. It’s still not entirely pain free and certainly not pleasurable, but it gets a little easier every time and if it’s ever too much we just stop. You’re already a trooper for giving birth, so there’s no need to be afraid! Just give it a cautious go and see what happens. If it sucks at first don’t lose hope either, it seems like it can just take awhile for your body to heal.

I was scared too, I decided to lead and ride daddy. It helped because I went as slow as I reached and all

I did. My SO was so gentle with me and it can be a bit uncomfortable still but it gets easier and more enjoyable each time. I’m 12 weeks PP today and we waited until 6.5 weeks ppl to have sex

I'm still struggling too. 😭

@Beth Really solid advice. Thank you! I guess it doesn’t sound so bad once you get back into it 🥲

With my first I wasn’t quite a 1st degree tear but I was sore. I had to go slow and yes needed to be wet. Key is to go slow, just talk to your SO and get on the same page. Play may be better to start and to ease.

With both of my kids I had a 2 degree tear. I was a an august delivery with a September due date with 2nd and we have indeed done the deed at 6 weeks pp. after my first it was always a little tender/tight. It didn't go away for me, but we haven't done the deed enough since having number 2 to see if it's still that way. For the most part I got used to it though. I would just tell my husband if our angle irritated the scar tissue at all and if it did usually a very minor positional change helped. In my opinion (and my husbands) it's not fun if one of us isn't having fun so if an adjustment was need it we just adjusted.

I took about 4 weeks and went very slow of using protection add lubricant

I did after 4 weeks and I had a second degree!

I didn't have any tears and only had one stitch 😅 I've had sex a few times. Lube and/or condom helps! As others have said, taking your time will be helpful too. Try to listen to your body, to make sure you're not overdoing it.