Feeling super down

I would try to split the unfun duties equally, so that you both get the good and bad. That often happens because moms are in charge of all the must do like bed time and homework and dads just hang out and play. But if you try to split that like every other time it might help

Just cried after bath time for this very reason not just you sadly.

Cheer up mama! Being a mother is hard and we are not always perfect. I’m on the opposite side of the spectrum with a little boy that ClINGS to me for dear life, and it’s exhausting to be his EVERYTHING. Playmate, nurturer, soother, bad cop. All the roles. And dad is there too VERY present but he’s just a mama’s boy. It sounds like you have a daddy’s girl. Lean into it. Also… Not sure if there’s more about to the hair washing than you shared. but Eli, who’s also 17months, hated bathes and I realized it’s bc I wasn’t doing bath time regularly. Also didn’t have bath toys and all the works to make it fun. Now we do bath time three times a week and he found a groove with loving the bath and getting his hair washed. Highly suggest even when it’s hard AF staying calm and explaining everything. They understand a lot now and are starting to learn how to respond to emotions.

You aren't the bad guy or gal at all! The fact that she runs to him means that they have a good relationship already! Kids go back and forth between which parent that they like more, but parents that both are present and responsive from the start are both go to parents for a child as they grow up. Mother's and daughters naturally clash, but you were her original safe space. ( An " old new mom" s take on this ) Hugs

Ayden started not liking baths as much when he started standing and cruising because he didn't want to sit for a bath. So my hubby put on some super basic speedo style shorts type thing ... And sat with him in the tub shower combo, and showed him it was still okay ( did the showerhead over him sort of thing) Maybe she hates her hair getting washed for a particular reason? I've found that with things that Ayden doesn't like, if I make it fun then he's all smiles and giggles

@Jacey girl you are not the bad guy at all. You just have a daddy’s girl. I have the same issue 😢 I feel your pain I would definitely try to split up the unfun duties as mentioned earlier and also if you don’t already have any, bath toys and nontoxic washable bath crayons worked wonders for us. Now my daughter hardly notices what’s going on around her when she’s occupied scribbling away and I can wash her body/ hair properly without her minding it much

Also I take a bath with her and have made it like a bonding moment of the day so that could work for you as well