Any advice would be great🦻🏼😂 but how do yall cope and deal with getting your babydaddy off your mind as far as him not helping how he should be

I find myself going back and fourth with mines cussing him out to the tea😂😂 telling him what he need to be doing and should be doing , and when I threaten him with court he plays the victim role I just really wanna know how do I get him off my mind to where my thoughts don't cause me to wanna say anything to him i hear all the time it's like I can't control my thoughts honestly i really don't know what I get out of saying anything to him anyway it doesn't really change anything besides making it toxic he's inconsistent as well so he pops in and out and uses what he has going on in his personal life as an excuse so how do I get this deadbeat off my mind💀💀💀💀