Rekindling a Friendship ❤️‍🩹

My childhood BFF and I had a falling out about three years ago. We don’t live close to each other so a lot of this conversation was via text message. She wanted to meet up to discuss things further, however I needed her to take accountability first as she acted really poorly around my wedding. I wasn’t going to meet up to argue. The way she behaved was out of order. Since then, I’ve had a baby, she likes my posts, sends birthday wishes etc... I still think about her often but haven’t really been in touch. I miss our friendship. I’d like to drop her a message, however I’m at a loss for what to say. I still can’t believe she acted the way she did. It still upsets me. I know things won’t be the same but i feel like i’m grieving a friendship when we could be in each others lives… How do I go about getting in touch?
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If it were me I would just keep it simple by asking her about how her life is going and how she as been doing. Dont bring up the situation with your wedding. If she brings it up then just explain that you weren't happy about how she behaved but you just want to move on from that.

If/When you do decide to discuss what happened to break the friendship, I suggest doing it in person, over zoom, FaceTime or at the very least on a phone call. So much can get lost in translation when texting. You can pick up tone, emotion, sincerity, guilt, indifference, etc. in the body language and their voice, and then decide if it's worth rekindling the friendship. I hope it works out ❤️

Thanks ladies. I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place because I miss her but I can’t get over it. I think dropping a text is a good idea @Nicole. I just need to think of how to word it as so much time has passed… I feel awkward! and then if she mentions meeting up or brings it up a video call first as you’ve said @Natalie. 😪

If you guys were really close then once you start reconnecting it’ll feel like your friendship never ended and you’ll pick right back up where you left off. Me and my best friend who’ve I’ve been friends with since grade school will have a falling out like every 3 or 4 years and not talk for months to a year. We have a very sisterly relationship and these breaks don’t affect our friendship. Sometimes we just get too much of each other and we need a break. We just came off a 3 month long break in January and we both just had babies 2 months apart AGAIN. We both each have an 8 year old boy and now newborn girls. I’d give the skin off my back for her and her children and I know she’d do the same for me but we sometimes piss each other off but all in all I’m gonna die her best friend and vise versa 😂

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