Silly really...

My ss is 10 and is fussy with food, ie if it's not rubbish, take away and processed he doesn't want it (normal for some kids, okay...) he always used to like pasta and he would eat it just fine but for the past 12 maybe less months he is kicking right off whenever we have pasta! And that's the mood ruined, he will play up and suck all night and then demand pudding. Tonight we are having meatballs and we were out for a walk and he asked my husband what was for tea, my husband had said he wasn't sure (even though he knew what we were having) and I (wrongly) assumed he'd told ss to ask me what's for tea because he didn't want the backlash from ss. I replied and told him we are having meatballs, cue him stropping the rest of the way home. Husband is now annoyed because he wanted to wait whilst we were home to tell him we were having meatballs. Is it just me or is this absolutely ridiculous!!! He's a child, if we are having meatballs then we're having meatballs. I'm not afraid to tell a child what I'm cooking for our dinner regardless of where we are. It's naughty behaviour to strop all the rest of the way home and it's also naughty to strop about it at home. I understand he is a child and they do have strops but what I'm getting at is what's the difference! I get that my husband wanted to enjoy the rest of the walk (tbh it really wasn't far to go) I didn't know he wanted to wait till we got home to tell him. Why is it such a big deal? Last week when we had a pasta dish, he promised his son a completely different meal (which lol guess who had to cook that!!!) I was furious, if he doesn't want the pasta I've said don't eat it, eat what you like from your plate or what you can but I'm absolutely not catering to everyone's different meal requests each night!

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I 100% agree with u and I’d be exactly the same. If u don’t want to eat it then don’t, but no pudding after! He’s old enough to know and if he’s sulking then he must think he’ll achieve his own way. I’d just ignore the behaviour, but ur husband needs to be on ur team and back u up completely!

My only thought is maybe your husband didn't want the walk spoilt by the inevitable strop he knew was coming? As for the behaviour, I agree it's silly and you should be able to discuss dinner plans without it happening but like I said, that's my guess as to why your husband wanted to wait.

I agree with previous comments although can I add a different perspective on the stroppiness. Could it be that SS has pasta a lot and is fed up of having it. Might be having it at mums a lot and at yours as it is a cheaper meal to make. My SK’s got like this if I made the same thing often. Could you get SS involved in meal planning? Taking him to the shop and saying you have £x amount to feed us all and let him have the responsibility and then help him to cook, it might help?

Completely agree with Courtney

@Mel that is a good idea, we’ve taken our SS to a supermarket before. Let him buy his own food and then cooked a meal for the family (under supervision) but was a good incentive! 🤪

@Tamsine yeah absolutely, I was frustrated because I didn't realise he wanted that and I do get it 😔 I think for me I can deal with the strops as I just ignore it but I don't think my husband can lol

@Mel so I have wondered this but we would have it max once a week although I don't know about at his mums, I have tried to get him involved with meal planning, even cooking and I've asked him to make lists of things he likes so that I can make sure he enjoys dinner time too but he can't be bothered so he hasn't done it and it makes me feel like I can only help so much right? Definitely a good idea saying we have X amount etc I'd have to make a rule of no pizza though 🤣 unless it's a weekend haha

I can offer up some healthy pizza suggestions if it helps 😅

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