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I’m so disappointed with how this turned out. When I found out I was pregnant I was so excited and I had so much trust in my bd. We had some issues but things slowly started to escalate over time. When I met him I thought he was amazing and I told him how important communication was for me and I had opened up abt trauma from my past relationship. We were dating for about a year when I found out I was pregnant but i was 27 and I felt like I was ready and I didn’t want to wait much longer anyways. I felt like it was God blessing me with a baby. Because I finally left a toxic man and found a good man. WELL my “good man” turned out to be a fucking shit show!! Communication literally trash. Not only did he gaslight the shit out of me and stonewall me but he said some really fucked yo things about my son that I can’t ever forget. He was NOT there for me during pregnancy and was totally inconsiderate and not helpful at all in postpartum. Now that I look back I’m like homie slept for the majority of my labor -.- when the contractions really got back he held my hand and he works nights so I knew he needed his sleep but when the baby came and I was recovering in the hospital he slept the whole time!! When I wasn’t nursing the baby was in his bassinet while he slept… I should have noticed that was off from the beginning. Anyways. I left his dumb dumb self bc I felt hurt that he didn’t give a fuck about my feelings and because he was t helpful at all. But I’m just so mad that he didn’t care, he let me leave and just started packing up the apartment and barrrrely tried to get me back. Like bright flowers with a stupid note but did not at allll acknowledge what he did. Anyways I felt we had so much potential to be a family and it all crumbled. I had a beautiful apartment and my baby had so much space and now I’m on my mom’s couch 🥴🙄 but I’m emotionally safe and happy. I’m just disappointed that it didn’t turn out like I thought it was going to be 😔 I hope one day I can have a family… but right now I’m scared/stressed because I have to be a single mom and start from scratch basically. But my mental health is important to me and I know I’m doing the right thing… it’s just so hard and scary😔 and I’m soooo mad at him…

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Firstly, good for you for getting out of a toxic situation for you and your baby. That's what I feel like being a good mother is about. The sacrifices we make to make sure our children are good. Don't feel bad about going from a big space to a little space. You know what your child is going to remember? That no matter what was going on, mama came through. You might be sleeping on your mom's couch for now, and things might seem hard and you don't see a way out, but i promise you, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You WILL get through this. Know why? Cause you are someone's MOM. Moms are superheroes every single day. No matter how broken or torn apart we are we still get that shit done. Just look at that innocent little ones face any time you get upset cause I don't know about you, but when I look at my son when I'm feeling bad, alll those bad thoughts just go away because he is my world. I created that human being from scratch and that's all that matters.

It sucks how sometimes as women we get judged for getting pregnant by toxic or abusive men but in reality they show us one version of themselves while dating and turn into someone completely different once you’re married or have a baby. It’s hard leaving a man due to financial issues or just sticking through for the kids. I give you so much props for leaving him and starting a new life with your son and I wish you nothing but the best and that you are successful in your future

What a blessing that you found this out now. Your baby won’t remember, you don’t have to explain your sadness to them, and you don’t have to help them heal from whatever trauma they would have experiences if you stayed. It’ll get easier for sure. This is only the beginning! But you took the trash out early 🫶🏾

@Cindy that's what happened to mine .... Now I'm alone because he left. He showed someone else and changed

Sometimes being back on mom’s couch isn’t such a bad place to be it doesn’t sound like he deserves much from you if he put up no fight or acknowledge the real problem.. looks like you were going to be doing it alone with or without him around.. focus on you and baby you will be just fine.. I’m in a similar situation not same but similar I am ready to walk out the door.. atleast you had the strength to make it happen I’m getting there .. there’s a rainbow and the end of every storm

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