Am I overreacting?
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I’d proper lose my shit I can’t lie. I’ve been so patient with my MIL biting my tongue and all it did was allow things to come to a head over a silly thing. Don’t be the same don’t bottle it up. Tell her she needs permissions to alter anything about your little boys appearance. He for one didn’t consent and you’re the person who advocates for him until he can. Without being pedantic about it either she’s stolen a first experience from you? Did she even keep you any hair? Sorry but that’s absolutely not on that’s a milestone and one I’d expect my MIL to respect or at least consult me on beforehand. The solution here is no unsupervised visits for a while until you’re comfortable. My MIL has never had my wee girl on her own, she’s had my dog before when I was pregnant and we drove into the street to find him running about the road she had no idea he was even out. Once trust was broken I’ve found it very very hard to fix but I jsut don’t have confidence that she won’t stray from what I ask
Thankyou both it’s nice to know I haven’t overreacted. I think a chat to my partner and mother in law needs to be had for sure. Xx
Omg I'm nearly crying with you how could she! Absolutely not up to her when he needs his hair cut and she cannot decide his hair nor take that first from you. I would have binned the first shoes or just not used them
I don't think you're overreacting at all. She's had a chance to experience all the firsts with her own child. I would be equally as pissed. It sounds like you need to get your partner to understand and set some boundaries with your MIL. We had to do this with my MIL before our bubs was born because she also likes to get in there first and overstep too (announced our engagement and pregnancy before we got a chance to 😤).