Are we too old to have another baby?

You’re kidding right? I had my first at 38😊 my friends had at 41 and 42, as long as your happy and healthy go ahead, most people have kids in their 30s now anyway, some important to have career first then you’re financially inland mentally ready. 🥰

@Pia thank you, yes I have some older friends too. I honestly am not too concerned about my age. It’s more his that worries me 😩😩

My husband is 46, almost 47 and I’m 33 almost 34, and our second is 8 mos old. My husband eats well, doesn’t exercise but is active, and we had no issues conceiving either of our children. My midwives said they’ve seen more healthy natural pregnancies in women in their 40s, than ever. I wouldn’t worry about tests until you’ve been trying for about a year. You can always do a semen analysis and check your egg quality, but do not be surprised if it takes a year or so. That’s simply the statistics of conception, with a 20% chance during ovulation and does not mean there’s anything off 💜 I would get on a good prenatal with iso inositol to improve egg quality, in the meantime ✨

I totally get this worry... However I would say the age is perfectly fine and probably the best time to do it if you're going for it. Men especially seen to go on forever with children and 32 is prime time for a women. Best of luck ❤️

I’m 33 and my partner is 49. Our baby girl is 5 months old and perfect. We will be trying for another baby next year. He did take impryl suppliments 3 months before we got pregnant to help his sperm but thats it x

I was 36 when I had my little one and my partner was 54. Little one is healthy and happy. Yes, the risks are increased but they’re still low in the grand scheme of things. Personally I’d say go for it, but obviously only you and your partner can weigh up the risks and benefits and decide what’s right for you 😊

@Jess the first time we tried, it happened first try. We couldn’t believe it. We haven’t started trying for our second and it’s mainly due to my worries about how his age will affect the baby. I know I probably sound dumb and paranoid. The internet just scares me so much bc you see stuff like increased risk of congenital/genetic diseases, autism, preterm birth, miscarriages, etc with advanced paternal age- the list goes on and it just freaks me out I guess 🥺 I really wish I was the type of person who didn’t worry so much. I weirdly was not concerned the first time and then after having my first I realized how lucky we were to have a healthy child. I am constantly worried over her the way it is lol.

@Rachel does that improve the quality of sperm or just fertility in general??

From what i know, i think it improves sperm quality. We were advised to use it from our fertility clinic in preperation for IVF. We’d been trying for 5 years with no luck, and then 3 months on that and we fell pregnant naturally 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Rachel thank you for the info!! I’ll def look into it 😊

Both my husband and I had our second when we were both 46.

Literally had my first baby 6 months ago at 37, low risk pregnancy and baby is happy and healthy! 32 is not old in the slightest

@Emma it’s his age of 46 that I am mostly concerned about! 🥺

My husband and I had our first this year I’m 34 my husband is 45. Our daughter is perfectly healthy. Your ages shouldn’t be too much of risk.

My friends fiancé was 49 when he got her pregnant (she was 25 at the time) and he had 2 teen daughters already. Happy & healthy baby. He had a stroke in the years before having he baby so he went on a health kick for ages and is very healthy.

Although men’s age is being more recognized as a factor in fertility it’s still the woman who’s age matters more and you’re only 32, you have years before you reach ‘advanced maternal age’ 🙄 and that certainly isn’t a cut off either. I’d say the real issue is whether your husband wants to have a 15 year old when hes 62. And how you feel about that potential child maybe losing their father a bit earlier in their life although none of us ever know how long we will have so it’s always a gamble no matter what age you are

@Jessica well he will be 59 when our daughter is 15 so I’m guessing he is okay with it. It’s something I think I am more worried about than him lol but yes those are all things I have considered and it just sucks. I wish he was my age. Then I wouldn’t be having this conversation 😕 he is pretty healthy and spry though so I hope we have him a long time. You’re right though, anything can happen to anyone any time. It’s so scary!

What is it about his age that worries you? Biologically? Socially? Judgement from others?

@Rosa biologically- like risks associated in pregnancy with advanced paternal age. I do sometimes feel judged by my family because they are not nice ppl and I won’t even get into that but this post specifically is about the biology of it all

@Rosa also the risks mentioned above (being older with a young child)

I haven’t researched this specifically regarding men’s age at conception, but are you sure the risks are really that high? For women I know risks increase at 40 due to the age of our eggs (I’m currently pregnant with my second at 40, 23 weeks now and so far all normal and low risk for everything tested for), but according to my OB, the risk itself may increase a lot, but overall risk is still low. So like if something previously had a .5% chance of happening, if the risk doubles that’s a high increase, but the overall risk is still low at 1%. You could talk to your OB or provider about the specifics regarding men’s age. You can also do carrier screening if you haven’t already to see if you are carriers for certain genetic conditions.

@GMF when I asked my OB about it previously, the only thing she mentioned was a concern for the child developing schizophrenia with older men. There’s a lot more that I’ve read about online though and a lot more studies coming out about different things. Im an RN so I’m into that crap lol. I have heard similar to what you said too though. Someone compared it to your odds of winning the powerball. It’s as if you have two tickets instead of one. Chances still low but increased like you said.

@Rosa yeah I think we will probably go ahead and do that just to be on the safe side but I agree 100% it’s always a risk! I worry a lot haha so if there’s any risk I’m gonna be paranoid about it 😂😂

@GMF also thank you for recommending that screening! I’m def gonna look into it!

I have a friend who had his first at 55 lol his girls keep him young. You guys aren’t nearly too old! There’s a woman called Katherine graves that talks about this on social media, (a course, and has a book). She’s great and reassuring.

@Kelsea thank you so much I’ll definitely look her up!

I’m having my 3rd at 38.

Man didn't Robert de Niro just have a baby at 80 😂 men can reproduce til they die of old age , age only matters for the female counterpart, millions of sperm come out of him there has to be some good ones swimming in there that'll make it to the tubes

Age does matter in men too, in terms of chromosomal health. Obviously sperm is continually produced throughout life (unlike eggs which are all there from birth). So there is scope to improve (or reduce) sperm quality. He could have a semen analysis - and look at ways of improving quality if necessary and retest later in a few months again. I think there are various things worth looking up for him to get as healthy as he can if he’s willing to and if he isn’t already.

….think it takes about 3 months to potentially improve quality. Think it’s more difficult to improve things if sperm count is an issue. But quality can be improved over a minimum period of 3 months.

32 is still young!!!!

I had my first baby at 33, due my second next month with literally just over a month to go till I'm 36. There are risks associated with everything, if you feel yous would like another child I'd say go for it. A semen analysis isn't a bad idea, but maybe just begin trying & see how you get on x

I don’t think you’re too old. Honestly I have friends whose dads were like 60 when they were conceived 😂

Also you’re soooo young at 32 you’ll be fine!

My husband is 43 next year nd we have a beautiful nearly 6 month old i am 25 but in research it is the women age that can effect more but u still have so many years

Hi my dear. My mom had her first child my older sister at 35. And me at 39. And this was 27 years ago. Technology and medicine has improved so much since then. If it’s truly what you want go for it. I am so grateful and blessed my parents waited to have us until they could devote their total attention and time to us and were financially secure. We were much better off than many friends, classmates and even cousins with younger parents. Yes it sucks my parents are getting old now while I’m only 24. But my mother watched her first grandchild being born and I will make sure he get every last second with his grandparents.

Risks are associated with childbirth regardless. Lol I'm 36 and am TTC my 3rd. What had me keep trying was the benefits. Such as longer life, healthier children, happier parents, more resources..so much more. So don't be afraid of what the media and doctors tell you. They want population control. Have your baby girl!

@Melissa thank you so much for this, I needed to hear it ❤️