Feeding to sleep
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I talked to the health visitor about this and they told me to always offer the breast first every time baby wakes up. I always offer breast to put baby to sleep and yes, sometimes it takes me 40min but if he wakes up again soon I know he's not hungry so my husband can rock him
I do eat play sleep (rock him or carrier) during the day & feed to sleep at bedtime. Often he will still want to be rocked at night tho even just for couple mins after feed & burp
We’ve always fed to sleep, it’s how he’s fed from day 1. I have to wait until he’s in a really deep sleep before I can put him down. We’re currently sleeping downstairs with the Moses basket - I now lean myself right into the basket so when he stirs he can still feel me there than as he relaxes I slowly move myself away, it means I can get him down a bit sooner and grab a bit longer sleep as he’s still going 2 hours in the night. Like you it can take nearly or even over an hour to get him down if I don’t lean myself in with him for a minute or two. There’s no way I can try him to settle himself, like yourself have experienced he’ll just scream and scream until he’s either on the boob or rocked/bounced to sleep. It won’t last forever, it’s hard right now but it will get easier eventually and they won’t need us to help them settle before we know it 😘 xx
I feed when he first wakes up in the day time and rock to sleep with a dummy for naps but at night always feed to sleep. It’s the easiest way to get him back down and I feel like I go into a bit of a doze state so I don’t feel too woken up either unlike when I try to pacify him with rocking or the dummy xx
I’m very much going by ‘baby led’ for now as, in my opinion, they’re too young to understand training as such and I’m not happy to let my baby cry out for ages/hours at a time, it just distresses baby and mother and makes those episodes in the middle of the night a lot longer for example. If my baby is hungry then I want her to be fed, I don’t want to deny her food. (Plus everyone tells me you miss the closeness when baby becomes more independent so enjoy it while we can!) If I know she’s just fed and she wakes again then that’s different I don’t offer the boob straight away I try and soothe her where she is first, but yeah if what she wants is the comfort of the boob then I will give her that and she falls asleep very quickly. We always feed to sleep at bedtime and through the night. Sometimes before naps in the day but not as much in the day.
We’ve had two nights of crap sleep so if that was our ‘regression’ I’ll take it 😂 during the day he will sometimes whinge for a sleep and doesn’t necessarily need feeding to drop off (though I always offer), and at night he has a big feed to send him off, and if he wakes then he gets a boob. He always takes it and it stops him waking fully so just goes straight back down, and so do I! As a side note, if I’m peckish in the middle of the night I have myself a snack and I’m 31 🤷🏻♀️😂 four months is still very little, try not to panic!
Always feed to sleep at night and probably for on nap a day too
We always feed to sleep in the evening and overnight, it’s biologically normal. Try not to for naps but sometimes he falls asleep during a feed or is overtired and needs to feed. For naps I have found he goes down better when my husband puts him down.