Partner disappointment

So tonight we went on out for a group meal to celebrate a friend's promotion. We was planning on taking little one (1 year) as I've never left him yet. But after parter dropping many hints over the last few months about us never spending time kid free, I thought it would be nice to maybe try it and go out just us with friends. it's only a few hours so the perfect time to try leaving baby and we're only a few minutes down the road if needed. Anyways meal was a shit show from the go. People turned up a hour late and we didn't get food till late, meaning we had to leave not long after eating. Was still a laugh and we had a few drink and a good time. Till it came to leaving and he decided he wasn't coming home but going to town with the mates I was so fucking disappointed, I'd made the effort to go child free and have some us time to be dropped just like that as he'd rather go out... now he's sucking up with his i love you messages but I'm fuming.. no point ti this really but to rant and get it of my chest 😂

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My partners been taking ketamine before he even finished work , didnt even finish his meeting (works from home) im 32 weeks pregnant couldnt deal with anymore stress tonight so i went to his mums and my partners not even bothered messaging or calling until he said he was watching tv and talking , turns out he went out in town came back with 2 mates and now their drinking in my house , honestly i would beat them all with a bat if i could right now ,

@Radvile OMG I feel silly complaining now compared to that. What the hell I'm so sorry you're going through that why do they feel they can just do as they please all the time 🙄

I literally hate all men at this point

This must be so frustrating for you. I totally can relate. It’s not nice at all but I would try and hear his perspective. They might have been tempting him to and he gave in. Doesn’t make it okay to leave you like that but I could see why someone would suddenly want to go out. Thing is, can he not just arrange another time to go out with them? There must be another time they can do that. Plus you don’t know how late he’ll come home. My partner often used to say he’ll be home at a certain time and never was until I told him I wasn’t going to constantly put up with it as why not just say you wanna be out most of the night from the start. I’d be disappointed too. You could also tell him how you feel and say you wanted to be child free together for a night. Literally 1 night right now. How it means a lot to you etc. If he comes back with “I never see them…” well I’d be like but we never have child free time together so what’s more important? If he chooses his mates then he wouldn’t be

Prioritising your relationship. You’re not asking bare minimum and I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all. Also he can see his mates after. I’m sure you’d be perfectly fine with it. It’s just not a good time to do it right now

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