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I know in some cases they split it. Like they make the parents meet in the middle. I agree with the above comment, I would seek legal advice and how to go about it. Good luck
4 hours is too long to do every week courts would suggest a middle meet point. I would seek legal advice
Quietly document how he doesn’t help out and doesn’t know how to care for baby. He won’t be able to do that if you have evidence. Save things like text messages from him.
If he can’t even care for her, bring that up! That is a valid concern. And if he could even potentially be abusive or anything like you gotta worry about shaken baby with a father who doesn’t know what to do like that and might just resort to doing something like this…I wouldn’t be comfortable if I knew my ex couldn’t take care of even basic needs
The best way of keeping the baby close to you where he has to travel to your area is saying you breastfeed. My children's father and I are 5 hours apart and we meet half way every other weekend. But my children are older. So it would be best to start the legal process now that your baby is "breastfeeding" to get a temporary order in place because if he fights it it usually takes years to get a final decision I'm 2 1/2 years in with no permanent orders in place yet.
Should seek legal advice, speak with citizens advice or most solicitors have 30 min free consultations
4 hours is a long drive for such a small baby. I would seek legal advise if you can afford it (citizens advise if youre in the UK is a good place to start). Depending on where you live depends what may happen in court. Most courts do look favourably at the mother when kids are involved , but that still varies place to place.