Miserable

I might be the only one that thinks this but I honestly hate being pregnant. From day 1 it has just been misery and sickness, I don’t feel like myself anymore and it has put a strain on my mental health and relationship.

I stopped wanting to be intimate and my partner has said I have stopped caring about the relationship. I honestly have not done so intentionally, it is hard to get out of this funk.

I’m 28 weeks and the baby has started moving and kicking which in the beginning brought some joy but when I don’t feel movements, I only feel anxiety and then misery kicks in again. We have been to triages few times when really concerned and when I hear or see baby girl I feel some relief but it is often short lived.

I am honestly counting down the days until I see baby girl and start to feel like me.

I don’t really have a question. I think I just needed to get this solely out of my head.

Good luck mamas ❤️🩷🩵❤️

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Oh honey, I can safely say I have not enjoyed being pregnant!
I have said to so many people I feel guilty for not enjoying it as there are people who would kill to be in my position! I am SO grateful for my sweet girl, but I am very ready for pregnancy to be over and for her to be with me!🫶🏼
You’re not alone in feeling like this and if you want to talk, my messages are open!!
It could also be a good idea to speak to your midwife as she may be able to help you!🩷
Sending you so much love🩷

I feel the exact same. Your not on your own. Other women have said you should love being pregnant but I honestly don't like it at all. I want to be back to myself. I will try every method to get him out early as I can't wait to meet him though 💙. I've felt sick throughout the whole pregnancy too not pleasant at all. We have all got this ladies 👊

I feel the same! Absolutely hate being pregnant 😩 always wanted nothing more than to be a mum and cannot wait to have her here but think I thought being pregnant would be a hell of a lot more enjoyable than it is

I don’t enjoy being pregnant. I’m grateful everyday but I hate the anxiety that I have constantly

Thank you so much ladies. I honestly thought I was the only one going through it and didn’t want to burden family and friends. Appreciate hearing your story ❤️

You aren’t alone! I have hated being pregnant all 3 times and it has been so hard especially with a baby and now two toddlers (my boys will be 3 in April, 2 in June and baby g is due in Feb). With my first two I had severe HG and was hospitalised for dehydration, exhaustion, hospital trips for my second were a nightmare, I had to take my first and I had to go every week from 30 wks for growth scans, fetal monitoring and ob visits because they were worried about his growth, my ex partner was a POS and didn’t help with either of them and the only app he attended for my second was at 38+6 (he didn’t trust the male dr he’d never met to give me a cervical check!). It’s rough AF but after they were born slowly I returned to “normal” and I wouldn’t change having my babies for the world! It does get easier I know it’s the shittiest advice ever but I promise it does.

I feel the same. This is my second pregnancy, I didn't enjoy my first pregnancy as I just felt so unwell. I thought I would enjoy it more this time as it's the last time I will be pregnant but I have enjoyed this pregnancy even less. I feel bad for wishing the pregnancy away but I really don't like being pregnant. Not even enjoying the kicks this time which was the only enjoyable part of pregnancy last time. Just sick of being in pain and uncomfortable. I cannot relate at all to people who enjoy being pregnant.

Pregnancy is such a tiny part of being a parent and it's totally valid to not enjoy it.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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