Anyone with more than one child and can relate?

My eldest is 3 and half and she's never been "attached" to me... (me and their dad are still together btw) like it's always her dad she wants to be with e.g. "do you want to stay with mummy or go with daddy?" "Daddy" or if it's me and my sister shopping she'd prefer to hold my sisters hand or when I go out with mates she holds their hand or walks with them... I feel so upset by it and can't help but feel so much guilt that it could've been the fact I suffered extreme pnd when she was born, I was alone and felt isolated and was really depressed and I just never wanted to hold her or cuddle her because of those feelings... it's like it was all a dream at the time😩 But like I just want her to want to walk with me, to choose to be with me etc. is this just me? Is it only my child that is like this?😢

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So do you feel like you never bonded? It's not too late. Children bond through play. You need to play 1 on 1 with her.

My youngest was a daddy’s boy. It was always daddy this, daddy that. Me and his father separated when he was 7 and up until he was about 12 we had this really weird relationship. He never wanted to do anything with me!! He barely talked to me. He would call my mom for stuff 1st and then me. He just turned 16 yesterday and for the past 4 years me and him have a great relationship. He still is a daddy’s boy but he comes out of his room to talk. He comes in my office/room to check on me. He makes sure I ate or if I need anything. It took time, patience and just me continuing let him know I was there!

My eldest (4) does this a lot when we’re out and about. But in the house she’s constantly glued to me. I welcome the break tbh 😂

My son who is my first... Always was and still is a daddy's boy... Even before he was born! All for daddy (can explain if you want 😂) it got to me that I was the one who was with him all day and me who gave all the cuddles and everything but I was forgot about when daddy was about lol he's now 5 and slowly going more for wanting mummy but still very much a daddy's boy... Where as our daughter is a mummy's girl... She will go to daddy for a quick cuddle or if mummy is busy but other than that it's all me! I think he feels abit rejected like I did but kids just have preferences unfortunately lol

Feel like this with my 3rd baby. I don’t get a lot of 1:1 time with her due to my other 2 kids. My partner does help but they prefer me.

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