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We sleep trained using the Ferber method at 5 months when I was at breaking point. Things got better from day 1 and by 2 weeks she was sending herself off to sleep with no crying at all. It was hard, but she was crying so much anyway being woken up on transfer so for us it was totally necessary for her to get the right amount of sleep. From your message it sounds like you reluctantly did a ‘cry it out’ method. Honestly even with white noise we would hear our LO if she was really crying in her room. We have a monitor but don’t have the sound on once we go to bed. It could be that he didn’t wake at all or soothed himself quickly so you didn’t hear him. If you aren’t happy with the method you did in the moment last night I’d consider something like Ferber instead. It’s tried and tested and you won’t feel as guilty bcos you are checking in on them regularly. Hopefully you can put last night behind you and move forward with a plan that better aligns with your tolerance for crying
Honestly we have friends who let their baby cry a lot to get them onto a schedule at 3 weeks and others who cosleep and contact nap bcos they don’t want them to cry at all. I did a lot of research into it before we did Ferber and there’s absolutely no lasting impact so give yourself a break. Drop me a message if you would like any support employing a different method. Having a plan ahead of time helps when you feel stressed in the moment
What type of sleep training are you doing? The only way my girl is sleeping is when she is in bed with me! I can't keep doing that, I want to start putting her in her new room in Feb 😓 I don't do well without sleep and think I got about 3 hours last night..... those 3 were because she slept in my bed 🤦♀️