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Im currently 6mos pregnant and recently just met my MIL for the first time. She is from a different country and has built somewhat of a life for herself in the US (small business owner) but still depends on my fiancé for financial support because work has been slow. She married young but eventually divorced and hasn’t remarried since. And to make things more interesting, we share the same birthday and first name 😩 You would think this would bring us closer together but apparently she has already made up her mind about “American women”. I currently live in a different state but I am planning to move in with my Fiancé before the end of the year. During our first time meeting, his mom spent hours picking me a part and even made comments that she didn’t plan on being a grandmother to our child. She has even alluded to me becoming a single mother, has also insinuated that her son shouldn’t marry me, or be in our baby’s life. She even discouraged me from relocating states, and hates that I would be a stay at home mom who is focused on building her brand as a business owner. She made indirect comments about American women being “lazy” and depending on their men for money. She has tried to weaponize information about me for her personal bias, but is still attempting to “get to know me” despite already not liking me even before officially meeting me. After 3 encounters with her, I’ve decided I’m not auditioning for approval or worthiness in her life. And that I am completely fine with us not having any form of a relationship. I know this puts my fiancé in an awkward position but I’m not the one making things difficult for him. He thinks I should “give it time” and wait for his mom to come around on her own. But I’m not the type to leave the door open for people to keep hurting me, and especially not my child. What should I do?

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Where is she from? My mom said her coworkers also describe American or white women as "absolutely lazy" lol my jaw dropped open when she said that cuz I had never heard of that. But I would say to definitely set boundaries but also be open to her if decides to stop this nonsense. It's still a bit early but in my experience with friends, mothers like this tend to dote on their sons and these boys are usually mommas boys... This story makes you think you are one of my friends cuz she went through exactly this a few years back

Your fiance needs to set the boundaries. That's his mom and he needs to set his boundaries with her into respecting you. If he doesn't then he needs to grow some balls. I've told my fiance plenty of times that if he doesn't say something to his mom about how unintentionally ignorant she is to me, I have absolutely no issue doing it myself. I know she doesn't mean to come off rude but she does. Idc if you're unaware or not, if you're being rude and making shit about you then I will literally tell that shit to your face. Once you become a mom, I can promise you, you will become so strong into protecting your peace and your family.

@Favi 🐄💕, she is from Jamaica and claims to be a “self made woman who never depends on a man for anything” Yet she still depends on her son for financial help 🤔 She also claims all American women want to do is get pregnant and live off of government assistance 🙄……I believe she’s still bitter from whatever happened with her ex husband (his father).