Pregnancy after Loss
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@Libby that makes sense as a first time mum you’re cautious and scared to do this and that so with a second it kind of comes natural. I sometimes just don’t have the time to solely focus on her when I’ve just got so much things to be doing and because my toddler it much more of a ‘risk’ than she is she’s happy and content just sitting playing in the one places without really known what’s going on. You’re right when there is just one baby you can focus your whole world around them. That being said and probably the main reason I was a bit worried that grief would be blocking me trying to bond. I think the feelings will get stronger when she’s older and walking about and more of her personality showing. Now my boy is starting to talk more and interact playing my heart just melts and I know it’ll be the same with her
Im sorry you don't have your twins mama 🫶 I haven't had a baby after my loss yet but i do want one more. And I'm actually terrified of it being a boy. I think I would be devastated to have a boy after losing my son. And he looked exactly like my oldest son which makes me think another boy would look just like my maxi 🥹😔😭 and I couldn't handle it
@Staci I was the same I wanted a girl so much so I could have one each but deep down I think I would have preferred to be a boy mum on the basis I’ve had and got my girls just in a different world 🕊️ 🕊️ Sorry for your loss and hopefully in time you will get your rainbow x
I'm so sorry for your losses. I can't even imagine. While I can't relate to that part, I can relate to the feeling that you've not bonded as much with your girl. My boy was a surprise and I don't think I really accepted him until he was here. I love him to pieces of course, but he doesn't get the same attention as my first did, but that's because I'm not the same person in the same position I was with my first. I feel more confident this time, I know I can leave him playing for longer, unlike last time I'm working while raising him so I have to let him play by himself next to me for a bit while I work. I'm also way more chilled about milestones and not focusing on them as much as last time. He's also a way more chilled baby. I couldn't put my first down, this one is pretty happy wherever he is! They say the second is more resilient than the first because they have to be. They have to slot in with current family life where first time around the world could centre around her.