Advice?

Do not give him the fathers last name

No. Name him after someone worthy, someone who’s not abusive and not in jail. You want your son to do better right? Then show him what’s better.

At the end of the day its your choice but I would say to give baby a beautiful name, one where whenever you hear, see or think of their name you don't think of your abuser. BD isn't worthy enough to be a namesake.

Well that’s his kid I mean ! She knew who he was when she seen him ! I mean all my kids have my last name bc I didn’t want to go threw the battle of baby daddy’s that man is not your husband give that child your name

His kid or not - abuse is never okay and he may not have shown that at the beginning of the relationship. @Cat do whatever you feel is right for you regarding the MIDDLE name. Does he deserve that right? Probably not. I understand how hard it can be in this situation. Both my boys have middle names unrelated to BD and I’d love to change their last names but I understand how difficult that can be now. If you ever need a chat feel free to message me ❤️ you’re strong beautiful mama, keep being strong and reminding yourself why you left in the first place - because you deserve so much better than the abuse

@Sharnee thank you so much🥺🖤🖤

@Cat you’re fine babe but please be safe and do what’s best for you & your baby. It’s not easy to leave but it is so much better than the alternatives ❤️

Me and my baby dad do still talk - our relationship was very toxic we already have a daughter and I’m pregnant with a boy now. My daughter doesn’t have his last name and neither will my son, my own choice. I knew if we split up which we have he wouldn’t step up to be a good dad and he proved me right so he didn’t deserve the name to be part of the kids. At the end day, if he wants to see your child then I’m sure he can contact when he is out of jail. I just don’t think the name would do anything but it’s only up to you anyway x