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Feel like I’m really struggling at the minute. My little girl is like Glue I am a single mum so I’m all she knows but she now won’t even stay in a room with family if I’ve left it she cries if she can’t see me. She will not go in her cot, has bedshared for nearly 2 months now. Has never been good sleeper always woke up every 2 hours. I don’t let her cry soon as she sits up or stands I pick her up but last night she cried twice and then was sick from crying this isn’t the first time she gets so sad she throws up. She will not eat food she has no interest in it whatsoever she will chew it then spit it straight out it’s like the textures no matter what it is. Used to eat abit of puree or half a biscuit but never eaten one full meal in a day even when offered 3 meals a day it doesn’t equate to one. She is attached to my boob all night and is still feeding atleast every hour through the day. I really want to stop breast feeding but it’s like her comfort and the only calories she’s getting at the moment. She has never had a bottle or dummy. Really drained never had a hour away in a year and I’m really struggling now. Health visitor just seems to dismiss me. Everyone else just keeps telling me what I’ve done wrong to make her like this instead of helping or understanding the hardness. Really struggling and finding it hard. She’s one in a week.

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It sounds so tough and you haven’t done ANYTHING wrong. You have responded to her needs, you’ve given her love and comfort, you’ve done everything that is biologically normal but western society/modern world has told us is wrong for many years. It sounds like you need support and if your health visitor isn’t being helpful, you can go to the centre manager and ask for other support. You do not need to sleep train to change the sleeping habits or listen to people that tell you crying it out is okay if it goes against your instincts. My baby has never been a good sleeper but we’ve done some things to help his sleep without crying. It’s all out the window at the moment with teeth and germs though! Also because of everything he’s off his food and breastfeeding round the clock still too. It’s so hard but it will pass. Putting yourself under pressure or blaming yourself won’t help that It’s understandable you’re finding it hard and struggling. It’s okay to feel like that.

I’m going to link some resources that may help or offer you some comfort and reassurance that you aren’t doing anything wrong xx

@Emily thank you so much! X

https://www.instagram.com/ruthwattshv?igsh=MTFnenpkZjdhc291aA== A health visitor that has some really great advice and support. I haven’t bought her sleep guide but I’ve seen so many people be positive about it and I think it’s £5 https://www.instagram.com/heysleepybaby?igsh=MXR1ZmN5M29qc2dmcw== positive sleep advice and support The breastfeeding and lactation support group uk on Facebook have lots of support and advice but also guides on reducing feeds if that what you feel is best for you https://www.instagram.com/thebreastfeedingmentor?igsh=MXBuanhyazQ1Z2dsOA== also has guidance and support in weaning off breast but also lots of support too

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