For single moms that cared for a new born what are some tips/things that helped you ?
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i was by myself with a newborn and it might sound fucked up but when i would be so overstimulated and tired i would talk shit in a cutesy tone so i wouldn’t scare my baby and it would get all the negative thoughts out etc. without me crying or screaming or my baby being upset (and i didn’t have to pay for a therapist 🤞😂). being 100% honest though it is just hard being at home alone w a newborn and u could use every tip and trick in the book and you’re still gonna lose ur mind sometimes. u are in the hardest most draining part of having a baby rn but u got this 🤍ur a great mom and sometimes someone telling u to keep going is all the motivation u need
My therapist and my health care team were very supportive. Getting my apartment ready beforehand. And honestly not having expectations and just going with the flow.
Getting my mental health in order was critical to me being healthy for my baby. I got rid of negative people in my life I isolated from family members that made me feel bad and I just did my thing.
Not a single parent but I have been alone for most of the day since our LO was 2 months old because my partner got a new job. Something that really saved me was organisation. The pram bag is always stocked and ready to go; nappies, two changes of clothes, extra bodysuits, socks, spare dummies, nappy cream, nappy bags, any "medication" that might be needed, muslin cloths and some bibs. The only thing that ever needs added in is a fresh bottle and the nuby, there's also two little pots of formula in there too for if we are out of the house for long. The pram has its own blanket and rain cover packed underneath. All clothing is seperated and categorised, we have a 16 cube storage thingymajig off Amazon and it's fantastic not to rummage around for a bodysuit, sleepsuit, top or pair of bottoms. Every room in the house has nappies, nappy bags, muslin cloths, dummies and a blanket or two. Clean as you go along when it comes to dishes qnd clothing, or leave these until baby is sleeping. Continued..
We don't have central heating so we air dry everything, I'll usually pop our LO into his chair on the floor and put Paw Patrol / Bluey / Ms. Rachel on for him - screen time is so ridiculed but it's a saving grace, and I've found that our LO has actually become more vocal after watching TV or listening to music! I buy a lot of easy snacks for the daytime so I can grab and go if I can't stop and cook, or I make some sandwiches the night before and leave them in the fridge until the day after. Always have a huge bottle for water or juice too, and plenty of pillows around for arm support whether you bottle or breastfeed. X
@Annie thank you !!
@Stephanie omg are we the same person… lol
No advice really. I was literally heartbroken when I had my youngest sons, His dad had got with someone else as I literally had him and I was a mess, but I’d cry if I needed to and I got through it because I had my little man
Getting out the house every day, otherwise I’d have gone crazy alone in my flat 24/7 with a newborn. We went for walks every day from about a week old, even just little ones, and we started getting out and about pretty early, like going to the library or cafe or baby groups. I think it’s particularly important as a single mum otherwise it’s so lonely and you go mad.
Also found random ways to entertain him without me doing anything eg he loved watching the washing machine, used to put him on my bed with wrapping paper, soft fabrics, tissues and just let him roll around and feel stuff for ages, I used to read my books aloud to him because it wasn’t like he’d understand the plot but at least I’d enjoy it!
@Sam aww Im so sorry. It is painful the father not being around to help in general smh. But to know that he’s w someone else even more.
I’m ok now and we all get along as he’s had more children
@Sam i feel like the same will happen in my situation. Glad u were able to move forward.
Using TV as a tool for helping calm my baby down! I always said I’d never let my baby have screen time but with a screaming baby with colic it was the only thing at that time that helped calm her down. Also ended up using TV so I can eat my food with two hands!