Feeling so Guilty About formula Use

DISCLAIMER: I'M NOT TRYING TO MAKE ANYONE FEEL BAD ABOUT USING FORMULA. NO JUDGEMENT ABOUT OTHERS, JUST MYSELF HAHA. Can someone just bring me back to reality? I have a 6 week old son, my second boy. He's been solely breastfed. Recently, I've been doing formula just if we are going to be somewhere that makes breastfeeding really hard (like shopping mall etc) My son has literally only had formula 4x since he's been born, yet every time I give it, I am so overwhelmed with feelings of guilt. I know if a friend of mine was saying this, I'd tell her she's crazy and there's nothing wrong with this at all. Yet..... here I am feeling like such a bad mom for not giving him breast milk when I could be. I have a breast pump at home, so Im going to try to get pumping some milk for the freezer so that I can just bring that. But I still need to be reasonable about the formula..... my first son was more formula than breastmilk cause I was having such a hard time with my milk supply. I'm an idiot. I know it haha.

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I get the guilt. Fed baby is a happy baby you are doing what you need and you know. Not an idiot just a mom who cares!

I get it. My baby is mostly formula fed now because I didn't know at 3 months supply would regulate and I didn't latch enough in the first 3 months plus baby was a good sleeper going in 5 hour stretches. That was my downfall. If breastfed is a priority, you'll dedicate more time to it. Otherwise, don't feel bad for your choice.

I experienced this with my first as I got mastitis and my bf journey ended prematurely I was racked with guilt and I think that was the reason I bf beyond 2years old with my younger two. But ultimately my daughter didn't suffer, she was happy healthy loved and thrived. So the feeling is normal and it will subside. Why do you find it difficult to feed in a shopping mall? (Curiosity) I think I'm too liberal I would pop my breast out anywhere and mastered the art of breastfeeding and pushing a pram/stroller or just use a sling and open my shirt so baby can nurse.

@Anita totally good question. I'm a 40L cup..... there's literally no discreet way to do it in public with boobs so big.... and where we live, there's not many public spots that have a proper mother's room.... and even the ones that do have it, I haven't been able to find a nursing bra in my size, so my bra has to come right off when I feed lol.... so public is just not really an option for me 😟

Nothing to feel guilty about unless you were allowing your baby to go hungry. Fed is best and YOU need to be comfortable as well. You’re doing nothing wrong.

@Nina del Rosario I get it I'm only a b cup so my baby's head obscured me. I'm sad that you don't have more options for nursing. Have you tried a shawl or blanket tuck it into each bra strap to obscure you? But honestly please there's no guilt or shame in feeding your child by all methods ❤️

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