How do you parent whilst going through a tough time?

I'm so sorry. I can't offer much advice though I am currently pregnant and lost my dad a few months ago. I have a toddler and found It so hard to actually grieve as I felt I had no time. All that helped me was if you can do take time for yourself. I found taking a bath buying my favourite food etc; small things all helped make life more manageable. Just try and make things as easy as possible for yourself and try and plan some nice days out. Its so difficult and everyone copes differently, hopefully you have some support around you ❤️❤️

I've not lost a parent so I can't truly understand but it is something I worry about in my future. The only thing I can offer is that you should make sure your loved ones know and understand how much you're struggling. Try to take time to prioritise yourself. Try to take joy in your little one, when we feed and play with our babies we release the love hormone (oxytocin) which will help to lift your spirits a bit. And remember that your mum isn't truly gone as she lives on in you and your little one ♥️

I haven’t been exactly in your situation, I lost my dad before I became a mum, and then lost my grandmother when I was 12 weeks pregnant (my daughter is named after her). I was really close with my gran as an adult, so I talk to my daughter about her and show her pictures. Same with my dad, so she can remember her grandpa that she won’t get to meet. Throwing yourself into motherhood might help, but I’d also try to carve out some time to grieve alone if you can. You can’t hide forever, but it’s a natural reaction to need time alone. Is there anyone you can trust with your baby, even just for an hour or two? I journaled a lot when my dad passed, it helped to pour out everything I was feeling: sadness, anger, even relief that it was over. My dad has been gone nearly 10 years and there is still a whole in my heart where he fit, but the pain is no longer raw. I can look back with love and appreciation for everything he gave me. You will get through the grief with time and compassion ♥️

Thank you ladies for your comments and advice and sorry for whoever has lost someone close. It hurts like a sledge hammer doesn’t it 😪 My partners amazing and can take of the baby of course as we are a great team 💪🏼 Just the mum guilt and what with still having such a young baby, I just feel like she needs me so much. She always seems to cry or need my care just as I’m having an emotional wobble, it’s like she knows. So even a simple nappy change can feel like I’m literally giving my everything. Im going to have to try carve out some alone time so I can process this. I don’t want to bottle it up so years down the line I realise I’ve not dealt with it.

You're already being an amazing mum just by being aware of yourself. Sounds like you've got the support you need in your husband. She's still so little so I'm sure she won't be aware, just focus on you and get lots of cuddles in when you can

Throwing ourselves into child care doesn’t leave any space for us to grieve and feel the feelings that we have to experience when we’re going through a loss like that. If you have a partner/co-parent or community who could come help you a couple days a week, I would call on them.