Toddler adjusting to sibling

Hey everyone, i know it's normal but i feel as if im failing all the time because my toddler is super jealous of her 8 month old baby sister, i feel like I've tried everything, i honestly wanted more babies but now i don't think so, i feel like it's not fair to my 2 year old, we don't have any family that helps or village, just me and hubby, I'm a sahm at the moment, it's is by far the hardest part about having babies, i don't want my toddler to feel jealous or left out, I'm doing my best but it's not good enough, yesterday she asked me why did baby sister have to come out of my belly, she says she doesn't like her, i just need some advice please. Does it get easier? Please share yalls experiences
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Have you taken time to spend with just your 2 year old and not with the baby. Or like not holding. Her or being next to her?

Have you taken time to play with your toddler while baby is sleeping something like that. What we’ve done is play when we can. Watch movies sitting and cuddling with each other. When our second was younger I’d feed her and then put her on the ground or bouncer or something where it was just me and my Toddler

It's hard on toddlers especially since they were used to it just being you and them. And they had your undivided attention. And it hard on you too with trting to be there for both. I am funding it hard too epically since our newest LO is a Velcro baby. But when LO is down for a good nap i spend time with my toddler. Just us playing or having a moment watching her favorite TV show and cuddling. I plan on when LO is a bit older maybe 6 months old, on the weekends having mommy daughter date for 2 hours outside the house just her and I. Either going to the park, library, ect. So maybe on the weekends when dad is home take time with just your daughter and have dad warch the youngest for a little bit. Hey, maybe even during the evening have 30mins or an hour have dad watch the youngest while you have time your toddler. Talk to your husband about it and having him take over baby which will give your toddler and you the alone time that you two need together.

It’s hard on toddlers, but they’ll be so grateful for your hard work when they’re older and having a blast together! 2yrs feels like a huge gap now, but 4 and 6 year olds play well together, and 8 and 10 year olds even more so! Ours adjusted decently well, although we’re only 3months in so it’s possible things change as the infant stage fades… I *try* to intentionally set aside 15min a day with toddler, setting a timer and everything bc it’s hard for me to let go and just play with her. Her baby doll has also been a huge help. Like “Oh this is your baby, and this is mamas baby! Let’s put our babies on the mat together.” Again, we haven’t started dealing with sharing etc yet! Following along to hear what others say 🙂 Good luck! This is just a season and we’ll miss it soon enough 😅

My toddler is jealous in the way that she hides all of sissy’s toys. She and sissy play so well together but if she’s playing with something my toddler has to hide it. Yesterday she made a blanket fort for them and they just laughed and laughed! Mine has never said she doesn’t want sissy! She says she loves her and will ask her “did you sleep good” in the morning and at naps! Lol we’ve focused on time with each individually and time together as a family/sissy.

My daughter was jealous of her brother for the first few months but he adores her. Now that he's starting to smile and laugh she has started to like him more. There were times that she needed something and so I would say 'oh, Lonnie i need to set you down because Aria needs my help.' That way it looks fair when I tell her in feeding her brother or something. The first few months were hard. Just think in about 2 years they will be playing together

This is normal!!!!!!!!!!! Just make sure you show your toddler she is prioritized too- if my baby I screaming when I’m doing something with the toddler (and baby is in a safe space of course) I’ll tell the baby “you gotta wait your turn now I’m helping big brother” or something similar and I can tell my toddler picks up on that and feels important

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